[ SECRET POST #2417 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2417 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Oh fuck you

[(Anonymous)]

Thank you. Some people in my family were cool, but many of them--and my classmates and neighbors--were practically disgusted when I would express any interest that wasn't 100% "feminine." Growing up, I was literally told to "stop trying to be a boy" because I preferred to wear pants instead of skirts and liked action movies instead of romantic comedies. I was even scolded for trying to *befriend* boys, because "that's not what girls do."

I'm not genderfluid. I'm not trans. I'm cis. You can be female and cis and still be interested in traditionally "masculine" things.

I've seen this attitude on Tumblr especially, where people essentially say "either you're a pink-clad Barbie doll who loves shopping and fashion and hates getting her hands dirty, or you're a different gender entirely!" The meme where nerdy girls write down "this is what 'Normal Girls' are like, and this is me! I'm totally weird for not putting on make-up or buying shoes or obsessing over who to take to the dance!" feeds off the same harmful mentality.

Fuck anyone who thinks this way. This bullshit needs to stop. I like comics and explosions and sharks and sports and I hate wearing dresses. And I'm a cis girl.

Re: Oh fuck you

[(Anonymous)]

I am sorry your family was wrong and they didn't realize that you could be a girl and like actions movies, sharks, and all the cool stuff. My parents messed up on a lot of things but I do have to give them credit for buying me Barbies and Matchbox cars. There were no girl toys and boy toys in my house. I wasn't limited to play with just girly things. My Dad always said that me being born changed a lot of his ideas on women and feminism for the better and I am so grateful for that.

Re: Oh fuck you

[chardmonster]

Yeah, having a childhood like this was awesome--I had dolls and action figures and got boxing gloves when I was six.

Mom didn't start pushing the girly stuff until I was a teenager, and I thought she was rejecting me, but in retrospect
1. My self esteem was so obviously crushingly horrible that I literally thought I was too ugly to attempt to look decent--that any attempt would just highlight my ugliness. I basically said this out loud. So trying to get me to, you know, maybe try wearing a skirt or a bright color or go to a party wasn't exactly regressive.

2. She was trying to teach me that wrangling the unibrow and wearing lip gloss sometimes improves how people see you. Which enrages tumblr kids but is also (unfortunately) completely true. I'm currently studying the 1940s, where using lipstick to cover up dramatic gender progress was really important. Stuff's basically warpaint.

Re: Oh fuck you

[(Anonymous)]

EXCUSE ME

>and got boxing gloves when I was six.

SO FUCKING JEALOUS RIGHT NOW YOU HAVE NO IDEA

Re: Oh fuck you

[(Anonymous)]

or you're a different gender entirely!

Oh my god are you serious? D:

That's... not progressive. That's going back to times when non-girly women were labelled incomplete men.

Re: Oh fuck you

[(Anonymous)]

Or they are considered "lesser women" because they don't like stereotypically feminine/female things, which is also hugely problematic in itself.

Re: Oh fuck you

[(Anonymous)]

*thumbs up* I'm the exact same way, so I feel your anger.

Re: Oh fuck you

[(Anonymous)]

I've seen this attitude on Tumblr especially, where people essentially say "either you're a pink-clad Barbie doll who loves shopping and fashion and hates getting her hands dirty, or you're a different gender entirely!" The meme where nerdy girls write down "this is what 'Normal Girls' are like, and this is me! I'm totally weird for not putting on make-up or buying shoes or obsessing over who to take to the dance!" feeds off the same harmful mentalit

Usually I just see feminine tumblr girls mocking "cis girls who don't always like feminine things" by calling them special snowflakes. People on tumblr mock those who actually make those memes, so I rarely see those memes actually used.