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Just want to add, maybe you could help in terms of providing structured mealtimes? Rather than trying to tell her what to eat (which can backfire), you could try to make sure that there's one or two shared, sit-down meals a day that involve vegetables and which your sister will enjoy eating. It's a fuck of a lot of work if no one else wants to chip in too, though. :/

Da

I'm going to be honest, that sounds about as controlling as trying to decide what her sister eats.

Tbh, most of the OP's post smacks of being controlling and concern troll-y between the focus on her sisters weight, and the fact she feels the need to decide how her sister eats/force her to eat what she thinks she should.

...? How is making a meal of food your younger relative would like and inviting them to it 'controlling'?

(Also, I thought OP was concerned not so much about weight as sudden weight gain, which can be a huge red flag medically for any number of reasons, including depression/binge eating disorder. She specifically said her sister hadn't been as fat previously.)

DA. She also said her sister has been away at school and has been stressed and that is when the gain happened... so it might not be a red flag as much as it's just a common thing that happens when people go to college. And even if it is a red flag, fighting with someone to eat a peach is just not the right reaction to it.

I don't think your meal plan is bad but it'd really depend on their relationship and how it could be approached, but I agree with other anon that OP came off as a bit of a concern troll and doesn't seem to really understand what their sister is going through.

AYRT

It can be, but by the same token it was noted that her sister had been stressed plus the focus on *what* her sister was eating, and 'fighting to get her to eat a peach' comes off very well...'Do I want you to do!' Particularly when she 'just walked into the kitchen' before doing it. There's also very much an air of 'I must make her eat healthier!' to the whole post that rubs me wrong.

It just smacks of the exact type of behavior I've had to deal with when I lived with family who was controlling [and yeah. Hits the red flags I learned from them for that behavior].

[And I'm well aware it can be a symptom - I've actually had to deal with that symptom before. I don't take issue with that part, but with the OP's behavior/the way the OP seems to be reacting with.]

Yeah, I think telling people what not to eat is pretty unhelpful when really, just about ANYTHING can fit in a balanced diet, so I figured adding some supportive elements like regular mealtimes and fresh veg is always way more useful than attempting to take anything away.

...And you just completely ignored their point about controlling behavior - which is a pretty damn big red flag, if you're going to talk about those.

Not referencing every line of a comment is not an indication that it's been ignored, anon.

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