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Is it really such a big deal to go see a movie you're not all that interested in? My friends and I usually take turns picking movies so we all end up going to see stuff we're not crazy about, but we do it because it's more fun to go to a movie with friends than it is to go alone. Same with restaurants.

Friendships mean compromise. Sometimes you do something they want, and sometimes they do something you want.

That's pretty much what I was trying to say, but I am much too tired to make sense.

Yeah, I just don't understand why it's such a horrible ordeal to watch a movie because your friends want to see it. If my friends and I worked that way, we would never see movies together or eat out at all because no one would ever be able to agree on one movie or restaurant. This way, everyone gets their turn getting what they want.

To me there's a difference between compromise and always being on the 'losing' end. Compromise means finding something to watch or do that you're all relatively going to enjoy, even if it's not something you'd normally watch/do.

Say I want to see an action film and my friend wants to see the latest rom-com, compromise to me would mean picking a third film that both of us would enjoy parts of (such as a romantic action adventure or something). We may not enjoy all elements of the film we chose, but we're not shelling out money for something that makes us want to wedge our head between the seats or drown ourselves in our pop.

Also, if I don't normally socialize with my co-workers outside of work, why should I be out so much money for an outing I didn't want in the first place, when whether or not I see a movie with a co-worker shouldn't affect our working relationship.

Say I want to see an action film and my friend wants to see the latest rom-com, compromise to me would mean picking a third film that both of us would enjoy parts of (such as a romantic action adventure or something).

but why choose something that you're both only going to partially enjoy instead of taking turns doing something that you each enjoy? that's not always being on the losing end, that means both people get the chance to be on the winning end. seems to be that's a lot better than both of you being only sort of happy.

I guess I just can't see dragging someone to a movie you know they're not going to enjoy at all, and then expecting them to pay for it on top of that.

Both of us being sort of happy, or content seems like a better compromise to me than one person being happy and the other wondering how long they can spend in the bathroom before someone gets suspicious, because if they spend five more minutes watching a film they loathe they might commit friendicide.

wow, you are ridiculously overdramatic. it's just a movie. it's not going to kill you to watch it even if you think it's dumb.

no wonder so many people these days are completely socially inept, they're spoiled children who expect everyone else to cater to them.

*snort* It's overly dramatic for me to decide that I don't want to spend money on something I think is dumb and won't enjoy? And yet compromising to see a movie that both (or a group) might enjoy is stupid to you?

Sorry, but I'm not shelling out my limited 'entertainment' funds in order to spend two hours sitting uncomfortably (most likely in pain) and not even remotely enjoy the film I'm spending money on.

I have no problem with compromise, but it's not social ineptitude or being spoiled to expect that everyone who goes out as a group enjoys themselves just a little bit.

I bet if your friend was a vegan or vegetarian you'd insist on going to a steakhouse and tell them that they're being whiny and spoiled by expecting a compromise so that they also can find something more than a garden salad to eat for dinner.

Comma's idea makes more sense that you, you sound dramatic for deciding people are somehow spoiled for compromising on finding something both parties will enjoy

you need to grow up anon, you sound an awful lot like one of those socially, inept, spoiled people who want to be catered to

Where is everyone getting this idea that the only kind of compromise is finding something that both people are sort of okay with? Saying "we'll see your movie this week and mine next week" IS compromise. It just isn't instant gratification compromise, which is what everyone here seems to expect.

But the issue behind that is now I'm (hypothetically speaking of course) spending twice the amount of money as before and one of us is going to be miserable on each of those outings. What's enjoyable about that?

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