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[How To Train Your Dragon]

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[Fall Out Boy's "The Phoenix"]

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[pokemon conquest]

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Another asexual here. Sex always gets portrayed as this amazing wonderful thing and sexual desire is this strong exciting thing and I feel like I'm missing out on a huge important meaningful part of life that other people experience with all its passionate ups and downs. It would be exciting to see someone and go wow that person is hot and feel some sort of desire for them but there's just nothing there and imagining having sex with even people I think are aesthetically pleasing only weirds me out.

Imagine what it'd be like to be unable to crave food. You can eat food, and food can still taste pretty good when you do, but you'll never get that satisfying feeling of omg I want a cheeseburger so bad right now / yessss this is exactly what I wanted.

Exactly this. Thanks for providing the analogy, and for understanding. :)

Maybe you haven't found the 'food' you're looking for?

Is it more important that "everyone else is doing it" and you aren't? (By the way, everyone else is not doing it. A lot are, and a lot aren't for various reasons.)

Do you believe the lack of desire for sex to be some character flaw? Do you just want to claim something so that you can share it in conversation?

Sorry if I'm being intrusive. I was just throwing some questions out there. IMO you're only missing out if it's something you really want to do, not something you only *wish* you want to do. If that makes sense.

(OP) For myself, it's not that other people are doing it and I'm not, so much as other people want to do it and I don't. Sexual and romantic attraction seem to drive almost everything and are constantly presented as these amazing, intense, life-affirming things, and it's what people bond over and everyone seems to be able to relate to, even if they're not necessarily having sex at that time.

I do understand that asexuality is a natural part of me but at the same time, I do kind of see it as a flaw, I suppose. I never really got over feeling 'broken' in some way.

It boils down to 'wanting to want', if that makes sense.

Perhaps gay men haven't found the woman they're looking for? Perhaps lesbians haven't found the right man? Do you believe those also?

LMFAO

How do you get that from my post?

Obviously gay men and women have found what they're looking for. Otherwise, they wouldn't be gay, and wouldn't know that they're gay.

This is about a lack of desire. Maybe there is some to be found, but maybe there isn't. And maybe there's nothing wrong with either. As I said, just throwing some questions out there.

Gay men desire men, and have a lack of desire for women. Maybe they havent found the woman they're looking for?

Lesbians desire women, and have a lack of desire for men. Maybe they havent found the man they're looking for?

Asexuals can desire relationships and intimacy but have a lack of desire for sex. Maybe they haven't found the sex they're looking for?

Explain to me the difference please? It's all about a lack of something, isn't it?

Why are you assuming I am speaking of entire groups of people? I was speaking to one person and asking about their personal experience.

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