[ SECRET POST #2446 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2446 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[ ----- TRIGGERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]




















04. [WARNING for gore, blood, etc]

[How To Train Your Dragon]


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05. [WARNING for child abuse]



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08. [WARNING for torture]

[Fall Out Boy's "The Phoenix"]


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09. [WARNING for underage]

[pokemon conquest]


















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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I have a feeling that the engagement should be off regardless, even if you don't want to cut them off complete yet. Because if you are roped into a marriage, it's only going to bleed you more. This is potentially far, far worse than any Tumblr liars due to they are now your legal responsibility and it looks like they don't understand responsibility.

[(Anonymous)]

Yes, exactly. I've been thinking for MONTHS about what exactly the problem is, and how I'm going to phrase it when the time comes, and the only way I can put it is that SO is not emotionally/mentally capable of having an adult, "equal partners" relationship yet. This has been proven abundantly clear with more than just the finances.

If I was going to be blunt I would be saying "Look, we already agreed we didn't want kids. You're begging your parents to pay your living expenses every month, and not cleaning up after the pets you adopted, and spending all your time reading fanfic and playing flash games instead of looking for a job - I do not have the spoons to deal with a kid right now, even an adult one." But there is a mental health issue to consider also, even if I'm starting to wonder how much of it is authentic and how much of it is SO using it as an excuse.

[blunderbuss]

They're using it as an excuse, anon. Having a mental illness means you can't always control your thoughts and emotions, but you CAN control what you do about it. Every mentally ill person has the responsibility to try and do something about their condition, because at the end of the day they're the only ones who can change anything.

Sometimes even the most well-meaning depressed person needs a kick up the ass to get them on the road to recovery. But because you're unintentionally enabling them, your SO will never start down that road. Getting them out of this rut is honestly the BEST thing you could do for their mental health.

[(Anonymous)]

Regarding your last sentence--SO will probably continue to use it as an excuse for at least as long as they can use you as a crutch. Keep taking steps to protect yourself financially and emotionally, and DO NOT marry this person. It would end in disaster for you both. SO needs to grow up and take responsibility for SO.