[ SECRET POST #2446 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2446 ⌋

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04. [WARNING for gore, blood, etc]

[How To Train Your Dragon]


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[Fall Out Boy's "The Phoenix"]


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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Reminds me of my son's Kindergarten class. In his preschool, I gave invitations to the kids he played with the most. But at new kid orientation at his Kindergarten, I found out the school requires parents to give EVERY CHILD in the class an invitation to birthday parties "to avoid hurt feelings and to ensure every child feels included".

Now, I'm not for making any child feel alienated, but dealing with disappointment is part of growing up, and this rule is NOT a good start to that.

[alexi_lupin]

That's ridiculous! Not everyone has the money or space (or inclination) to host a party for an entire class worth of kids!

[(Anonymous)]

Ugh- I hated being invited to birthday parties of kids I had nothing to do with and then being told by my mother to "be nice" and go to the party. My mom also tended to invite kids I didn't like to my party. I wasn't thrilled about that, either.

[(Anonymous)]

...We had that birthday invite rule in elementary school. In the early 90s. This is nothing new. Basically, if you didn't want to invite every kid (or every girl if you were a girl, every boy if you were boy) in the class, yup, you had to hand-deliver that shit. Some kids bypassed the rule by giving them out at recess, but my mom wanted me to be "legal" with the invites.

And as a kid who's had social anxiety as early as age six, it was rough.

[(Anonymous)]

...Why couldn't the invitations be mailed?

[(Anonymous)]

If you have everyone's address. And if you don't, how to get other kids' addresses without violating the 'rules' can be tricky, particularly for young kids.

[(Anonymous)]

We had it in the mid '80s. If you passed them out at school, everybody got one. Otherwise, you mailed them- we had a school directory, so you had pretty much everybody's addresses, or at least their phone numbers to get an address.

[(Anonymous)]

When I was a little boy, I gave birthday party invitations to everyone in my class, except for two boys. They were the ones who didn't conform to the rigid gender binary of elementary school, the ones we all called gay even though we didn't totally understand what that meant. I didn't invite them, and they didn't come. Almost the whole rest of the class did.

There is literally nothing I did as a child that I am more ashamed of. I cannot for a second pretend to myself that those two kids didn't know they were being deliberately snubbed, and I will never know how much I hurt them. Maybe not at all, maybe it just rolled right off their backs. But I doubt it.

ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

That's really sad and I'm glad it lives in your memory as something you regret. I don't think you should beat yourself up too much about it, but I think it would mean something to those two boys if they knew how bad you feel as a adult. There's a girl back in my past who was ostracized for being who she was - poor, not very pretty, overly dramatic - and I still think about how hard it must have been for her, and how I contributed to that, even though I was by no means one of the popular people.

But I'm resistant to inviting nearly 30 kids to my child's party because if even half of them RSVP, there's no comfortable way for me to be pay for that many kids. I wouldn't even know WHERE to throw it because where I live is too small. Not to mention it's never just the child and one parent who shows up but both parents and ALL the siblings. Two years in a row, I even had a grandma show up along with mom and dad and little sister. So while I understand the sentiment behind the rule, I just don't think it's practical from a financial POV. I don't remember this rule growing up (I'm 42), I wasn't invited to a lot of birthday parties and I'm fairly certain it didn't scar me. I was disappointed, but I dealt with it and moved on.