[ SECRET POST #2446 ]

[case]

⌈ Secret Post #2446 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[ ----- TRIGGERY SECRETS AHEAD ----- ]




















04. [WARNING for gore, blood, etc]

[How To Train Your Dragon]


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05. [WARNING for child abuse]



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06. [WARNING for rape]



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08. [WARNING for torture]

[Fall Out Boy's "The Phoenix"]


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09. [WARNING for underage]

[pokemon conquest]


















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Comments

[anonymouslyyours]

You've gotten a lot of great advice that you should absolutely take. Your SO has absolutely no motivation to improve themselves and never will as long as they're getting what they need with the status quo. From their perspective it actually doesn't make sense for them to sacrifice their free time and happiness for a paycheck when their basic needs will be met regardless. Your SO is an adult and not your responsibility. You are not a selfish person for not wanting to enable a selfish person.

But I know sometimes knowing something is right logically is not the same as knowing it emotionally. I'd like to suggest mentally switching you and your SO's roles in your head and imagine yourself treating your SO the way you're being treated. Imagine your SO feeling trapped and stressed by you the way you're feeling trapped by them. If this makes you queasy with imagined shame, and embarrassment for treating someone you're supposed to love like that, if you're mortified at the thought of being a willing, active burden on your partner, if you can't imagine placing your wants over your partner's needs without guilt or genuine attempts at self improvement that should tell you everything you need to know about where your SO's values are at.

Being there for someone is completely different from being used by someone.

At the very least you need to call the engagement off and set some serious boundaries and make it clear you expect SO to become self sufficient.

[(Anonymous)]

Absolutely this, Anon. You're a kind person for trying to find the "right time" to break it off, but with people like this every time will be the wrong time, because something will always be wrong. You have to take care of yourself.