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I hate them. I particularly hate them when people I am not, and have never been, in a romantic relationship/close family relationship use them. Because yes, it *does* read like a condescending insult.

100% agreed. It really does piss me off.

Meh. As a female who grew up in the South, I love them. My male relatives and my dad's friends grew up calling me sweetie and darling and such.

AYRT

Here's the thing - I also grew up, and still live in the South. Being Southern =/= being okay with it.

Yea, you see this all the time in the South. I have no doubt that some people do use these words as condescending insults so if people don't like them I understand, but where I'm from you hear it all the time and it's usually good-natured or a sign of affection.

When I use them in a conversation, you better believe that they are meant to be a condescending insult.

You wouldn't survive in the South without getting pissed off then. It's honey, sweetie and sugar all over the place.

Yup. Except "Honey" usually gets shortened to "Hon."

I actually really like them, mostly 'cause I get called all sorts of names like that by people. I get called 'bab' by both parents and occassionally by my manager at work. Also, a lot of random strangers call it me too (it's a very common one to use, here).

Of all that I get called, though, 'cock' has got to be my favourite. I get called it maybe two or three times a day by customers when I'm at work.

The only one I can think of that I actually dislike is 'baby'.

Dumb question, but isn't this normal for the Southern US?
I'm from Germany. Never ever has an official called me "Missy" or "sweetie", but when I was down in Oklahoma it happened all the fucking time.

I was relieved when I got back home, tbh. I was too afraid at that time to speak up against American cops or airport staff. We wree all about 18 or 19. The guys in our group were referred to as "Sir" or "Mr." and us girls were "honey" and "sweetie", even "darling". We felt like little kids dressed in pink princess tutus. It was really annoying.

In certain parts of the South, yeah. Though, I'm from Texas and you don't hear people using "sweetie" or "honey" as much as other places. You'd probably be more likely to hear Spanish nicknames. I swear everyone used to call everyone else "mami," "mamacita, "nina," "papi" and "nino" in this one place I lived.

In my part of Texas "lil' mama" is common. It's a little weird and off putting when it comes from someone I don't know and they're just assuming I have kids or kind of relegating me to FEMALES HAVE BABIES or something but supposedly it's also supposed to be a sign of respect or deference in the workplace?

I dunno I'm from new england and I get it all the fucking time but it's probably worse in the south

I don't mind it from my friends (usually come up with pet names for them too) but I always cringe when it's from a random stranger

The drive through lady at one of my favorite restaurants always hands me my food with a "here you go, honey". It's really jarring since I'm pretty sure I'm older than she is.

For me it depends on who is using it. Family/friends? That's fine because I know what they mean then they say it. Heck, I use them right back.

But a stranger? Weirds me out.

In a non-professional situation, I love them. Makes me feel special. They aren't super common where I'm from, though. /midwesterner

I think I hate it only as a form of condescension. My mother whips out "honey" or "baby" only when she wants to talk down to me; one of my friends uses "sweetie" for that purpose. It's unconscious, but that is what they do. If I heard it as a form of real affection, I probably wouldn't automatically get my hackles up, but I've yet to have it happen.

I love those; it makes me feel like people are actually engaging with me as a person rather than going through the motions. I do only hear 'love' and the like from older people, though; if a young person is saying it, it can come across as really condescending.

When people use those nicknames with me, I respond with even worse ones, e.g. "Where's the broom, honey?" "Probably in the closet, sugar-muffin."

I put on my cool/professional voice and drop all friendliness the second a customer does that.

I'm still professional and polite, just not uber friendly sounding anymore

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