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stop being the shittiest troll ever

Not trolling. I was being dead serious there. OP needs to grow up and stop acting like a hard done by child for being asked to get a job and needs to stop thinking filling in a single application form is a day's hard work.

Counterpoint: OP appears to have mental health issues that may be driving this. It is not necessarily the case that OP is just lazy, and "just get down to business and get over it" is often a v shitty response to mental health issues

OP does not have mental health issues, that much is obvious. They are just being melodramatic and throwing a hissy fit.

And how can you tell OP does not have mental health issues from over the Intern-

oh wait. it's because you're a troll. and you've pretty much done nothing but troll awfully while posting here.

Yeah let's see you deal with severe anxiety from the time you're nine and then see your asking for psychological attention get labeled as "throwing a hissy fit"

All you've done is post offensive shit and then when people called you out on it go "TEEHEE IT"S PART OF MY CHARM".

Yeah it is almost like I don't care what you think of me, innit. You want to consider that your little temper tantrum when called on your own bullshit is a key indicator that you are just an indulged and entitled brat that needs to grow up rather than an indicator of someone with genuine problem. What I'm seeing here is someone who is lazy to the bone and desperate for a way to justify being lazy so they don't have to do work.

I've. Been saying the same thing about my mental disabilities . Anxiety Ijust get mad that soeone like you keeps saying it's fucking fake. That's reason why I want to get help. Not because I want to run away from my problems.

Because people keep fucking saying "oh you don't really have them". I want my parents to consider help rather than "a job will make you feel better." I haven't put anyone down orpurposefully instigated people. I'm sorry I wrote this stupid rant in the first place for fuck's sake.

I do have mental health concerns.

I have voiced this to my parents and asked about getting help.

I was told that it would hurt my sisters and be selfish. For fucking getting the help I want and need.

Then i was told "no what you need is a job". or "you'll feel better when you get a job" . I had a job less than six months ago, I still felt depressed and directionless. I have a low sense of self worth. Having a job didn't change anything except the nagging was about turning over HALF my biweekly pay every month or else. My life was going nowhere.

I want help. I need help. I don't need ANOTHER person telling me to shut up and do what I'm told and I'll be magically happy. It doesn't work.

You don't have to like working. It doesn't have to give you direction or make you happy. It does, however, show you have some signs of independence and are even a tiny bit self-capable. How old are you, OP, and what exactly do you do all day? If you work, you can afford the therapy or whatever it is you need to get your life in order - that, or check your insurance. Considering you're an adult, and what, early twenties at youngest? Stop thinking of supporting yourself as your parents' demand. You should want to support yourself - especially if the atmosphere with your parents is not great.

Finding a job can be tough, how picky are you being at looking? Usually restaurants, especially fast food, go through employees quickly, and any job is better than no job.

I know, but I"m just providing an example why "get a job you'll feel better" is faulty. I want a job.

I'm 23 going on 24. I stay home all day looking for jobs an working on stuff to keep my stress down, I babysit my sister, keep an eye on the dogs and stuff.

I want to support myself I just want to stop getting lectures about how i'm freeloading.

Especially when only three years ago they were all "here let us help you" "No you can just forget about driving let us drive you places, you can't drive ever." I have a lot of stipulations on places I'm allowed to app. NO gas stations. Nowhere ten miles away or more."

I know I sound like a brat for wanting to go to a mental hospital. I just want ACTUAL counseling not pouring my heart out to someone who turns around and tells me I just "blame her for everything" .

Why won't they let you drive? Is it a health thing or they have control issues?

If they wanted to see you get a job so bad, they wouldn't place so many stipulations on where you can apply. Why are gas stations out of the question?

I'm just curious.

whoops. I saw below after posting this that you haven't learned yet how to drive. Your parents sound kind of contradictory - they want you to become more independent but they talk you out of driving. ? Is public transit an option (for getting to a workplace)? Or are they limiting where you can apply because they'd have to drive you?

The gas station thing still confuses me though.

OP's parents seem obsessed with the image they present--they've told OP that checking herself into a psychiatric hospital will "hurt the family," they admonish her that "people will talk" about her if they think she's odd, and they get on her case for showing too much ankle. So I wonder if they think working in a gas station isn't genteel--that it's something people of their social class don't do.

Nice white knighting OP, but what OP needs is very probably not "aww, it's okay if you don't work, you just need to get away from your evil parents!" OP sounds more like s/he needs to get a job, learn how to be independent and stop shifting responsibility onto others. Honestly, babying people with mental health illnesses does NOT help, and no therapist worth their credentials would do that, either.

I think you mean 'sockpuppeting'?

'White-knighting' refers to charging to another persons rescue- if you're jumping in on your own behalf, that's just being defensive.

I've clearly labeled myself every time I'm responded to this thread.

I meant the anon I replied to was white knighting the OP, lol, bad wording on my part

Their parents might be making completely reasonable demands while being incredibly hurtful about it.

But seriously, OP: try to get a job. The sooner you get more money, the sooner you can work on moving out.

Thank You.

and I'm working towards that. I have a clear goal in mind for when I can get money.

I don't have a problem filling out a fucking application.

I have a problem because even when I DO fill some out I get a lecture about how I'm freeloading.

But when I asked things like being able to drive two years ago?

"No sweetie, just depend on us. You don't really NEED to drive and it's more trouble than it's worth. So and so's mother doesn't drive and she's just fine."

Get good grades in college? "No you're still not worth spending money on because high school"

Do you make a big deal about having filled ina form? I bet you do, you want a pat on the head and a cookie for doing the bare minimum of stuff you are supposed to do. You don't get kudos for doing what you were supposed to be doing already.

You want to learn to drive, you pay for driving lessons yourself, you want a car you pay for it yourself. You want to work in a gas station, well unless you've tried to expand your woe is me act to include faking pyromania, go work in one. They cannot stop you. You want them not to control your life, walk out the door and learn how to live on your own. You won't do any of that though, because you like the nice cushy soft nest your parents have for you.

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