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fandomsecrets2013-09-17 06:40 pm
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OP
(Anonymous) 2013-09-18 02:09 am (UTC)(link)Yeah I suppose I'm not doing everything. I guess I worded this vent poorly. Bullied isn't the right word. I was just doing it on an emotional high because I had just been yelled at the same as I was yesterday after I actually DID what they asked.
So yeah I've decided to try harder because I do want a job.
I am limited because since I am unable to drive my parents drive me and they have limited the distance I can look in. Also I can't get a job at a gas station they won't allow it. Believe me I have been trying to search everywhere,. I can't afford to ignore any places.
I have done vocation rehab once when I was seventeen. I didn't do to well and i feel embarrassed for wasting their time.But I guess I can look into it. I mean I recently got a job for a year before without a job coach and had a good rapport there.
My parents recent;y started looking for a counselor at least. My medical problems are physical.
That's my biggest issue. Not being able to drive makes me feel trapped and limited. Like I'm in a prison I'll never escape. They've recently considered letting me learn if I get a job and insurance money. But....I don't know if it's sad but my dream right now aside form getting a published work out there is to learn how to drive. i'm stuck here feeling like some pathetic womanchild and that makes me hate myself even more. Like literally the only thing I sort like about myself is what I've created. I think they just want to protect me and other people because they think I"m dangerous in a car.
Thank you very much. I'll work a little harder and maybe look into something like Etsy or commissions for money on the side.
*hugs taken gratefully*
Re: OP
(Anonymous) 2013-09-18 02:49 am (UTC)(link)If you are legally old enough to drive and a legal adult, there's nothing your parents can do to stop you from learning to drive. They can refuse to teach you and they can refuse to let you use their car - which, admittedly, are very big road blocks - but they can't stop you from signing up for a class or finding someone else who will teach you or supply a car and help you practice. Getting a job not only would give you leverage for encouraging your parents to help with the driving problem, but it might also help with the money and social connections that you would need to learn anyway in the event your parents won't help you. Find out what the laws are where you live regarding learning to drive and getting a license and then think about a realistic plan for doing this, then see if your parents will go along with it.
Good luck, OP. This is the one part of your post that really trips me up because while yes, you should look for work and no, your parents are not required to help pay for you to go to college, keeping you from driving veers off into an area where your parents seem to be actively trying to sabotage your ability to become an independent adult in a way that undermines your self-confidence in the process. Everyone is dangerous in a car when they first learn to drive because there is no substitute for experience in this case. Whether they continue to be dangerous after practice remains to be seen, so honestly, your parents have no leg to stand on saying you shouldn't drive unless you've been practicing regularly for years and still nearly cause accidents all the time.
Re: OP
Voc Rehab may be able to help you differently now that you are an adult vs. when you are 17; plus they may have different people and different resources now. It definitely can't hurt to check.
I think it would be important to let your parents know how important learning to drive is for you. It is a basic life skill, and it's something that you should know even if you don't get your license/insurance right away. It takes awhile to learn, and honestly, it's probably better if you learn now, while you have the free time, than when you're trying to juggle work.
My sister, who had difficulty driving a cart in Walmart without hitting people, learned to drive successfully. I have faith you can too. :)
(And as far as publishing works, I actually have some experience there, so if you want resources, depending on what you are looking at doing -- NY, self-pub, small press -- I can pass you some resources if you like. I actually know some people who are self publishing to complement their part time income.)