[ SECRET POST #2458 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2458 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Aneurin Barnard playing Richard III in The White Queen]


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03.
[Leverage]


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04.
[Pokemon]


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05.
[Discworld]


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06.
[legend of korra]


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07.
[The Young Protectors]


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08.
[Animal Crossing]


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09.
[Men in Black]


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10.
[The Rivers of London]


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11.
[Teen Wolf]


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12.
[Welcome to Night Vale]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 026 secrets from Secret Submission Post #351.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

A guy in my fandom left today for bigger and better things (aka real life). I always resented him, because I was jealous that everyone seemed to almost worship him. I never let on about it...I talked to him when I needed to, and treated him like everyone else, and sometimes I felt like I was choking on my words, but I couldn't let him know how I felt.

Of course, now that he's gone, I have a bad case of "he really wasn't that bad" syndrome. I have the overwhelming urge to apologize. But for what? He won't know. He doesn't know. And I can't just tell him. I can't just tell him I thought I hated him because people liked him so much better than me. He can't know. I'm sorry. I'm so sorry. I hope you never find out.

[tabaqui]

Uh, he doesn't know, so just keep it to yourself and for the love of kittens, shed the guilt. Who cares if you didn't like some random dude online? It's no skin of *his* nose, and since you were careful not to do anything about or be nasty behind his back, no harm done.

I don't want to sound mean, here, but - nobody cares that you *expertly hid your dislike of someone for ages*. You did it, nobody knows, why fuck around with some kind of guilt-complex-confession deal? What would the point be? Let it go, anon, and enjoy your space free of him.

[(Anonymous)]

Don't do it again? You can learn from the experience and the guilt even if you never apologize to that particular guy.

[kelincihutan]

Maybe I'm missing the point here, but it sounds like you did all the right things in this situation. You recognized your dislike of him was irrational, you did not allow it to color your interactions with him, you did not attempt to cause him any harm, you didn't try to undermine his relationships with others.

So, basically, you handled yourself like a mature, responsible adult. It's frustrating to have a reaction to someone that isn't fair or justifiable. But despite what you felt towards him, you acted towards him in a civil, courteous manner. And eventually you let go of your emotional response, even if it was after he left. I don't think you should feel too guilty. The situation is over now, and you weren't a jerk about it, so...time to take a breath and move on, I think.