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⌈ Secret Post #2458 ⌋

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[Aneurin Barnard playing Richard III in The White Queen]

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[Leverage]

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[Pokemon]

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[Discworld]

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[legend of korra]

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[The Young Protectors]

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[Animal Crossing]

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[Men in Black]

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[The Rivers of London]

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[Teen Wolf]

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[Welcome to Night Vale]

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I've been home sick from work this week, and although I feel a lot better today I'm still kind of shaky and weak. Tomorrow is a big family dinner to celebrate my brother's birthday, and when I was talking to my mom earlier she asked if I thought I'd be up to it. I said I wasn't sure but I was going to try to, and she commented that if I skipped it my brother would go on about how much better than me he is because when he's sick he goes to work anyway and works 12 hour days for 20 days in a row without a day off, and she's right, because that's the type of person my brother is. No matter what anyone else is dealing with he always has it soooo much worse and he's soooo much tougher than anyone else.

Despite the ridiculous exaggeration he probably has worked a couple days when he was sick. But the thing is, he works in a huge office building where he rarely sees coworkers or interacts with anyone. I work in a medical office where I'm interacting with patients all day long, some of whom have compromised immune systems as it is. When I mentioned to my boss that I wasn't feeling well but wanted to try to come in anyway, she wouldn't let me because I can't be around patients like this.

My brother's birthday dinner has already been rescheduled once because my dad had to have surgery, and he threw a fit about it, and I know that if he we rescheduled again (which my mom mentioned) we'd never hear the end of it, and my parents agree with me that we just don't feel like dealing with his bitching, so we're just going to go and get through it despite the fact that none of us want to.

He chose a pretty upscale place so I'm going to have to get all dressed up and do my hair and makeup and everything and right now I hate the thought of that. Even just throwing on jeans and a t-shirt to run to the grocery today because I had no food exhausted me, so I'm not sure how I'm going to spend a couple hours getting ready and then a couple hours of dinner with a smile on my face while we all listen to my brother talk about how awesome he is.

I just wish he knew how to be a decent human being. *sigh*

Anyone else need to vent about anything?

Wow, your brother sounds self-important, self-centered, and severely lacking in self-control. (He pitched a fit because your dad's surgery trumped his birthday dinner? For that, he shouldn't get a birthday dinner at all, and you should donate the money you'd have spent taking him out to some good cause he hates.)

I think people who go to work while sick even if they can afford to skip work are selfish douchebags. Thanks for spreading around your viruses, guys.

How did your parents put up with your brother bitching about your dad having surgery?

nayrt

They're a special breed of selfish douchebag, too--the kind who play martyr. Ugh.

I sometimes go to work sick, because quite frankly, I can't skip work for three days for a cold, or my work comes down on you like a tonne of lead demanding paperwork and proof of illness and HDU BE SICK PLEBE.

I don't like it, I feel bad, because I KNOW I'm risking making other people ill (but I also feel guilty when I DO call in because we're always short staffed as it is, and I feel like unless I'm dying or dead or a zombie I have no right to complain/be off).

So... sorry. ._.

I only mind if it's someone who CAN afford to skip work. Because as the anon above said, they tend to make martyrs of themselves.

Eh, I only get so much sick time off, but I also work mostly in my own office with very little contact with other people. I do the best I can. :/

I'm not sure if he can afford it or not (he complains about money a lot) and I could understand if he genuinely needed to work, especially since he doesn't really interact with other people at work, but he's just so douchey about it.

They basically were like "oh, it's just him being his typical self" and didn't really do anything. I mean, there's nothing they can do since he's a few years from 30 and they have no control over what he does but it's gotten so old having to put up with him being such an asshole all the time.

Well, your brother sounds like a pain in the ass, but isn't gritting it out and dealing with your crazy / annoying relations and all their BS despite all the massive hassle that entails - isn't that what familys all about

Wow, nice brother. I ho

Pressed enter too soon jfc. ANYWAY. I hope he didn't send out a gift registry when dinner plans were made, because he almost sounds the type.

Sometimes after being sick and home for a while, getting dressed and going out helps me a little. So long as I'm not dancing or drinking or anything. Then again, I don't have siblings this awful. :( good luck, anon...

I'm not sure what you mean by gift registry...he hasn't asked for anything specific but I plan on getting him an Amazon gift certificate. That's what he got me for my birthday and I figure he'll find something he likes.

Yeah, I'm hoping so. Getting dressed and leaving the house to go to the grocery today didn't really help but I'm hoping I'll feel better tomorrow.

Gift registries are usually made by people who are about to have weddings or a baby and are looking for specific items if people want to buy them gifts. Plus things get taken off the registry once bought, so the recipient avoids getting duplicates.

I've never heard of anyone making one for a birthday though! I use Amazon wish lists for that. ;)

SA again: oh, right, venting thread. I hate that my boss is most likely (90% at least) screwed and might lose the franchise we work at as a result. I'm just waiting for the bad news to finally come, he hasn't said anything yet. :(

And it's not even anything we did, he just really, REALLY mismanaged everything and is in hot shit. So yay...

If I were you I either, a) wouldn't go because your brother sounds like an asshole or b) would go but wouldn't take any of his shit. Or hey, bring a friend with you if you can do that.

If he starts in on him going to work while sick you can just mention, "Oh, lucky you. I wish I could do that but I don't want to kill people. You know, because I'm a decent human being."

As for me? Uh... I- I'm angry at myself for spilling water all over the couch? Yeah, I got nothing.

Oh, I'm going to go. I won't like it, but it'll be better than the shit I'd get if I don't go. He'd throw a fit if I tried to bring someone else because that would be that much less attention that's on him, but...I'll deal.

Haha the whole part about being a decent human being would just piss him off and cause even more drama. I'm hoping that with me actually showing up to dinner he won't say anything but if he does I'm just going to point out that I can't be sick and be around people with immune issues and that my boss wouldn't let me come in anyway, and leave it at that. It would just be so much easier if he was capable of behaving like an actual adult.

That is so much bullshit. Just, everything sucks for you and it shouldn't have to. Why do you even keep him in your life? Anyway, I'm sorry for your predicament anon.

Edited 2013-09-26 05:49 (UTC)

Thanks. I don't even know why he's still in my life, honestly. Or I do, I guess, but it makes no sense. There are so many times he's done something awful and I've said "that's it, I'm done with him" vowed to quit speaking to him and my parents have guilted me into not doing it. My mom says that they can't celebrate every holiday and birthday twice just because we can't get along, which on one hand I understand but I feel like that's kind of unfair because I've made every effort to get along with him, he's the one that makes it difficult. And he treats my mom the same way (not so much my dad, though) as he does me so I'd think she'd understand but apparently she doesn't and just...it's so frustrating. We're basically complete opposites in every way and he gives me so much shit about it. I don't drink and am probably asexual, and he's constantly giving me shit about how I need to start drinking and find a boyfriend and I just...ugh. I hate being around him.

Your parents sound like enablers. They also sound like they've taken a side, his side. What you can do is go to holidays you have to go to (For example, major holidays) but don't really talk to your brother. Don't go to small family events if he's going (Like his birthday or your birthday if they insist he comes too). Set these rules up with your parents.

Now here comes the part where I'm gonna say something and I... I honestly don't know if you should go this far. I don't know all the details of your home life and I don't know the relationship with your parents. So take this next part with a huge grain of salt and really think about if it's for you or not.

If your parents don't accept these rules then say fine, you won't be going to any family events. If they want to see you they can call you and set stuff up without your brother. Remember, if you whip this out you need to stick to your guns.

If they say you're overreacting then tell them all of the things your brother has done to hurt you, how you have no positive relationship with your brother at all, and how by not doing anything to help you they are taking his side.

In all honesty I would rather give you better advice. Advice about time changing people, and hope, and care. I want to tell you to talk to your brother about all these things and work it out with him. I want to tell you to communicate and build bridges. I want to say that any relationship can be reforged and restored.

But I can't.

I don't know everything about the relationship with your brother. I don't know how he feels. I don't think I even fully understand how you feel. I don't understand your entire family dynamics and I don't have the years of knowledge you do about your loved ones.

If you think communicating with your brother will work than I say do that first. If you think there's no chance of that ever working then I say cut him out as best you can.

I wish you the best of luck and however it goes, that it is an improvement in your life.

Re: Venting

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I'd say don't go, and if he pitches a fit, don't deal with him. Let him talk to the hand. What a creep.

My venting? I hate Groupon and Living Social (and all other group-discount schemes of their ilk) with the fire of a thousand suns. I suppose people do get some nice deals, but they're a massive pain in the ass to deal with on the vendor side, and have been known to put people out of business by flooding them with more discount business than they were able to anticipate or knew how to deal with. If they closed up shop tomorrow I'd probably throw a party.

Also, customers who expect my place of employment to bend over backwards to accommodate their scheduling conflicts; who think I want to listen to their life story when they call our help line; who call from behind the wheel of a moving vehicle without any of their information or anything to write with; who try to intimidate me; or who labor under the delusion that I can magically change company policy if they repeat or rephrase their request often enough or linger on the line after they get an answer they didn't like: Y'all suck. Go away.

I can't stand my fandom anymore.
Basically there's been simultaneously "discussion" about my favorite actor's current gf (and by discussion I mean digging up gossip mag articles about them and bashing her)AND anons asking someone silly questions like "who's better in bed between the characters the actor played".

And someone reacted to that saying that the sex posts were stupid, gross and should stop, but that posts talking shit about his GF were fine because he or she personally hates her. And now people are either agreeing with him/her or apologizing to him/her.

I was so happy to find people I could squee with about him but I'm really disappointed right now :-(

Ugh, your brother sounds nasty. Just skip it and spend the evening watching movies or something, do what you enjoy. The fancy dinner doesn't sound remotely worth it.

I'm kinda bummed about my job right now because I've been sent to shitty places for the last week or so and I just want to go out to the west where everything is easier for me and I can enjoy myself. Weh.

I'd like to but I'm afraid it'd be worse if I didn't go. At least the food at the restaurant we're going to is pretty good and I don't have to see him that often, so I'll get through it. I just wish he was a nicer person but I guess there's not much I can do about that.

That sucks. :( I've worked shitty jobs and it's horrible. I don't know what you do but is there any way you could transfer to another location out west maybe?

Yeah, unfortunately some people are immune to the clue bat.

I'll be going west pretty soon, but it's just not a good day for me when I have to go from Memphis to Houston. XD

This is bad advice and you shouldn't take it, but I think you should go to the damn birthday party and sneeze all over your asshole brother.

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