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11. [WARNING for suicide]

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12. [WARNING for depression, suicide]

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11. [WARNING for suicide]
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Sometimes people post stuff like that as a form of therapy or venting. It's not your job to try and do something or save her, just to be there and listen. And if it's affecting your own mental health in a negative way then yeah, you did the right thing backing away.

Get all her other fans to tell her to do it already. I bet her posts will stop quickly!

You are a horrible person.

No, I'm trying to save OP from one.

Now, now, noodles.

You're probably right, but low blow anyway noodly.

dude, not cool

There are times when I seriously suspect that she makes those posts solely because she wants attention. As it so happens, attention is the one thing she's got way too much of already, so . . .

Some people can never have enough. And she knows what works. Wait for the escalation. She'll start cutting or take pills... only the cuts are shallow and the pills were flintstones vitamins.

I hope someone hits you with a hammer.

I get that you're a troll but this was disgustingly too far. Don't you have something better to do with your life?

Op's Author doesn't. I'm just trying to help instead of adding to op's emotional drain from what's most likely a faker.

I'd prefer to continue to humour a faker than risk encouraging someone who isn't faking.

i get that this is your shtick and you think you're being funny, but in this area you need to cool it. i get that there's the idea of "taking down faker bitches who deserve it", but no amount of that justifies the possibility of telling a person with genuine suicidal ideation to go kill themselves.

Come on, if you're going to accuse someone of faking there are classier ways to do it besides potentially encouraging actual suicide.

fuck off

really, you make it out as such a crime to seek attention
OP isn't in contact with them personally, the emotional drain isn't such a fucking crime that you risk hurting people who aren't faking it

fucking asshole

You shouldn't feel bad. You can't place that kind of responsibility all on yourself, even if it's for someone you know and love IRL. There's only so much a friend's words can do.

When I was in that place myself, no matter who I talked to, it didn't help. It got the feelings out for a bit, maybe a couple of days, but they'd come back full force soon enough. I've only just got a referral for a therapist from my doctor.

If you ever get the urge to message the person again, maybe just give them a list of helpful contacts, just in case.

There's nothing you can ever do for depressed/suicidal people but be supportive - within the limits of your own health and ability, of course - and hope they seek out help. Reaching your limit and backing off is perfectly understandable, and sometimes necessary to prevent sympathy from turning into frustration and resentment, which wouldn't help either of you. It sounds like you did the right thing, and the rest is on them, not on you.

I don't blame you for backing off from her. People who are depressed or suicidal need help, period. I've learned a long time ago that nothing you do will stop the suicidal thoughts and depressed ramblings. If they get help, then maybe their posts will become more positive, but if they don't, they'll just continue to fester in a pool of negativity. And there's no need to subject yourself to that negativity.

I didn't get the help I needed until my friends stopped playing therapist for me.

So what? Everybody's life sucks sometimes. Sometimes there is nobody to listen. Sometimes nobody cares. If your happiness is so dependent on others constantly having to coddle you then that's your own fucking fault. But nobody owes you a damn thing. Nobody should have to deal with somebody who is a constant drain on them.

To be honest I am sick of all the 'woe is me' shit I constantly see. And no, I don't feel bad about it because shit happens to everyone and you have to learn to pick yourself up or at least be willing to get professional help.

I have had shitty days/weeks/months but I never say shit. However it seems like everyone else wants a fucking gold medal for their suffering as they constantly broadcast it. It's worthless to try and give them advice for getting through it (which I've tried) but they ignore it of course because the attention and coddling is much more gratifying for them. I don't want to deal with it.

And it's not like it's just one or two people who start getting all depressed and 'no one cares about me' I see it so many fucking times from so many differently people that I've become numb to it. Maybe if people realized that they are not the only one who shitty stuff happen to they would be a lot more resilient.

Oh and here is the secret to a happy life: Don't make your own happiness dependent on the approval of others. Realize that you are not entitled to anything. Learn to pick yourself up and cheer yourself up. If things get beyond your control then buckle down and see a therapist.

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