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⌈ Secret Post #2466 ⌋

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Comments

[bored_bitch]

I'd argue that social anxiety (especially severe social anxiety) is not something you can just "get over" with a bunch of effort, and is akin to an actual mental disorder, so you may as well tell bipolars to keep their emotions in check, or schizophrenics to turn off their delusions via effort.

[(Anonymous)]

Well, fine. But don't expect people not to form their opinions of you based on your behavior.

[bored_bitch]

People do, regardless. There's not much you can do to stop that, unless you explain directly to them that you have severe anxiety.
And, even then, people will STILL talk shit about you because they either think that it makes you dangerous / autistic / whatever, or that you aren't "trying hard enough."

You're kind of fucked, regardless. Much like having any kind of mental condition.

It's a shitty position to be in.

But it doesn't mean you need to promote the negativity.
Otherwise, you're kind of just being an adamant raging douche.

[(Anonymous)]

The irony of someone who calls themself "bored bitch" admonishing anybody for being an "adamant raging douche" is delicious.

[(Anonymous)]

That doesn't excuse her from saying 'thank you for paying for all my food and shit'

[(Anonymous)]

Not really the same thing, IMO. You're not asking someone who's bipolar not to feel emotions, but to make an effort to keep them in check so far as not treating other people like shit? That's perfectly reasonable. If a person knows that their condition makes it difficult to be around other people, then a host should be told that in advance, and every effort should be made to say, hey, I know that sometimes I come across as difficult but I really do appreciate everything you've done, etc. etc.

Also, there's no mental health issue that forces you to mooch off others when you have the money to pay your own way. Having social anxiety disorder or a mental health issue is not an excuse to behave like an asshole.

[(Anonymous)]

This! Nothing pisses me off more than people who use their mental illness as an excuse to treat others badly. All it does is perpetuate the stereotype that people with mental illness are assholes, and gives assholes leeway to treat others badly because "they can't help it". Bull.

No mental illness prevents people from saying thanks or offering to pay for your own things. But a selfish personality sure does. The fact that the OP's friend didn't say thanks (or apologize) online once they got home shows that it had nothing to do with social anxiety, and everything to do with being an ass.

[chardmonster]

Having social anxiety sucks.

Not telling someone you're good enough friends with that you're actually meeting in person that you have social anxiety (or that you're 'awkward' or 'shy' or whatever) is pretty mean.

Letting your friend pick up every bill is awful. Social anxiety is no excuse.

If you're usng a self diagnosis of social anxiety as an excuse to not try to avoid rudeness and to let your friend pay for shit, you are a really shitty person.

I echo my opinion that the OP should drop this loser.