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⌈ Secret Post #2466 ⌋

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[the_songbird]

But they did say they weren't bored. They said they were "fine"...they nodded, etc.

I'm also an introvert, I have been at gatherings where everybody else is having fun and talking and socializing and whatever. I'm the one on the side watching and listening. I'm actually not having a bad time. People will come to me and ask me a million times if I'm "okay" or if I'm enjoying myself and I will assuring them that I'm "okay" or I'm "fine" and I really am. Maybe she's just not very effusive in real life.

(I can also understand anxiety over the check as someone up above mentioned about "missing the window". I have similar thoughts when it comes check time if it wasn't already brought up. That said, I have managed to learn to ask up front how we're going to be paying/splitting. So this person being talked about may have to learn how to do that. Or maybe they really are just a mooch, I don't know. If it's truly damaging the friendship (and I can understand why an experience like this could) then the OP needs to either get it out there and explain what is bothering them or just tactfully back off the friendship.

And remember in the future to make clear they plan on splitting the bill.)

[(Anonymous)]

I was referring more to dinogrrl's confession that she "may appear bored, rude and ungrateful"--seriously, if you know that's how you come off, why not take even a tiny baby step or two to come off differently? If a person expects all the effort to be on their friend's side, then yes, that is selfish.

[dinogrrl]

I was just using my own experiences as an example. That incident with my grandparents was actually a wake-up call for me to learn better ways of dealing with non-introverts.

No matter what I do, there are always people who see me as too quiet, uninterested, and rude. On the flip side, those people usually come off to me as loud, in-my-face, and rude, so. :p