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(TW: Suicide, Depression, and Anxiety)

[mrs_don_draper]

Some of my friends have made jokes recently about wanting to kill themselves and how they want to hang themselves, jump off a building, etc. The way they said was joking, but lately it's really been bothering me because I've wanted--on several occasions--to kill myself. I'm not sure if it's the way they're saying it or the frequency they've been saying it lately or what, but I'm thinking of telling them about my past and my issues. I'm just not sure if I've known them long enough to tell them (about a year) or when to "casually" slip that in to a conversation. How does one bring up such weighty topics and what do I do if they're not supportive? I've told friends before and they were supportive, but I'd be crushed if these friends were not receptive.

Thanks for the help. I could use some love tonight since I've been kind of worrying about this a lot. :/

Re: (TW: Suicide, Depression, and Anxiety)

[siofrabunnies]

Would it help you if you weren't completely candid? If you say, "Hey, can you guys cool it with the suicide talk? It's upsetting me," they might stop with just that. If they don't, then you can say why it upsets you so much. That distance can maybe give you some courage.

Bringing up twice might be helpful in and of itself, as well. Twice can make them actually take it seriously, instead of just brushing it off.

I hope it goes well. Good luck!

Re: (TW: Suicide, Depression, and Anxiety)

[(Anonymous)]

I don't know if this is a legit response, but if they've started making these jokes more frequently lately, maybe the best way to let them know about your past is to see if they need help? Joking about suicide every now and again is one thing, but if it's becoming a trend, maybe it's a weird way of asking for help. You could approach them in a serious way and make sure everything is okay, and tell them you're there for them even if they blow you off with a laugh. You can tell them you know how it feels, and you just want to be there for them. If they ask, you can tell them. If they don't pursue, then they at least know it's something that might hurt you, and if they continue, you can politely remind them that you were there once and it brings up painful memories. At least, that way, they come to the conclusion that they're making you uncomfortable and/or hurting you on their own, rather than be confronted with it (even politely) and have the chance to get defensive instead of supportive.

Re: (TW: Suicide, Depression, and Anxiety)

[(Anonymous)]

I'm afraid that I don't have any useful advice for you, because it's not the kind of thing that I would ever really be able to do (this is a fault on my part; I think it's a very good idea). I don't know how to bring it up. I do want to second the person who raised the possibility that they may be joking about suicide or depression as a screen to mask their real feelings, and it wouldn't necessarily be out of order to ask if everything's okay with them.

And mostly I just wanted to say that I hope everything's okay for you. I think your friends will probably be more supportive than you fear. And if they're not, they aren't worth a damn. And I hope everything work's out and you're feeling better.