fandomsecrets | [ SECRET POST #2470 ]

⌈ Secret Post #2470 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

01.

__________________________________________________

02.

[Homestuck, Teen Wolf, Supernatural and Sherlock]

__________________________________________________

03.

[Supernatural]

__________________________________________________

04.

[Watashi ga motenai no wa dou kangaetemo omaera ga warui]

__________________________________________________

05.

[Agents of SHIELD]

__________________________________________________

06.

[Sleepy Hollow]

__________________________________________________

07.

[Fullmetal Alchemist]

__________________________________________________

08.

[World of Warcraft]

__________________________________________________

09.

[Pacific Rim]

__________________________________________________

10.

[Richard III in "The White Queen"]

Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 044 secrets from Secret Submission Post #353.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Flat | Top-Level Comments Only

Drop the ex-relationships in your life. It seems like both women are draining you and you don't need that right now or ever. You're not their mother and shouldn't have to babysit them and their needs. Focus on you and getting better.

You keep saying you deserve it in your previous post, but YOU DON'T. YOU NEVER DESERVE THE ABUSE OF OTHERS EVEN IF YOU GO BACK TO THEM. EVER.

Going back to someone who is bad for you doesn't make you a bad person. Doesn't mean you deserve their treatment because you don't believe you are strong enough to get away. She doesn't "need you" she just wants to use you for her own needs. That's not a relationship you deserve or need yourself.

Try to join a new RP group, anything. Just get rid of your ex and her emotional toxicity.

It sounds like (to me) the stress of your relationships is making your physical and mental health worse. You have to learn how to take care of yourself. It will be really tough and it sucks that you're off your meds right now, but it's something you'll have to do, even if it takes time and strength you don't believe you have (but you do), I hope you are able to.

Just because you've fallen into old patterns doesn't mean you can't learn from them or change your behaviour in the future.

Glad to hear things are getting better with you and your best bro.

Also hugs if wanted and I wish the best for you.

Edited (added the end.) 2013-10-08 01:26 (UTC)

I was able to sucessfully drop the ex from my city. Maybe because there was a lot less emotional and creative baggage going on there. But my first one...

God, I know -in my mind- you're right. I just can't feel it.

There's nowhere in Spanish I can join in (I was talking about it yesterday, in fact), and I don't know how to really RP at Tumblr or Forums, so I'm kinda screwed in that aspect. Besides, that's a story we've been working on since 2009... If only, the idea of leaving the story unfinished breaks my heart. And I have attempted to find new partners, too. They just don't... tend to stick around *sigh*

Thank you for everything, hon. I'll keep on trying to get away from this mental place I'm stuck on. And hugs are always, always wanted. *hugs*

Go you for dropping your ex in the city :) Even if dropping her doesnt feel like a big victory, it no doubt took a lot of courage and strength and you should be proud of yourself.

I'm sorry that you can't find people to RP with. And it sucks, but you have to let go of the story to let go of her. Letting go of a story is never easy , but you have to find a new story to create. One that doesn't hurt.

It might take a while to find another RP partner, but In the meantime you can focus on you and getting better.

You might not have realized it, but you are trying to get out to the mental place youre stuck on. And you have made progress and you should be proud of what you've archived (breaking up with one ex is a big breakthrough).

*hugs again*

A-ahaha, it's more like she dropped me first, but I was so very glad she did. Everything with her was looking like a flashback/second serving of my first relationship. To my credit, though, I can say I did block her from everywhere and haven't contacted since then.

You're right about the story. I know you are. It just feels so awful, I've put so much of myself into that character it's like he's almost interwoven with me. I don't know how I'll manage to let go of him. I had never felt more identified with a character, in any fandom, and he's been mine even since before I started RPing with my ex.

Thank you for cheering on me, honey. I'm trying, I swear I am. It just doesn't feel like I've done enough, y'know? But I'll try my best to stay positive.

*Hugs back*

[ SECRET POST #2470 ]

Re: How To Ruin All Your Relationships 101 - Now Novel-lenght,

Re: How To Ruin All Your Relationships 101 - Now Novel-lenght,

Re: How To Ruin All Your Relationships 101 - Now Novel-lenght,

Re: How To Ruin All Your Relationships 101 - Now Novel-lenght,