[ SECRET POST #2471 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2471 ⌋

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Comments

Re: When did gender become a thing for you?

[lynx]

I was so very happy being a total tomboy (and unaware that I was one) during my early years. I went to kinder and 1st grade at a mixed-genders school and clearly remember I had a male best friend and a female best friend and the three of us played house. We'd take turns being the husband, the wife, and the cat of the family. (And yes, sometimes I was the husband, or the cat; and the same was for my female best friend; and my male best friend was sometimes the wife or the cat too). We just didn't give any fucks at all about it.

It was only when I was on 2nd grade, when I got transferred to an all-girls Catholic school run by nuns that I was suddenly aware of "how a lady was supposed to behave". I don't like much talking about it. Just let's say the homeroom teacher believed in corporal punishment (yes, this was in year 1995) and was very quick with the wooden ruler. She used to berate me for not being lady-like and other stuff unrelated to this thread.

Back to topic, the only thing she accomplished (besides trauma, not getting believed by the nuns of the school, a change of school, and my first visit to a psychologist ever); was that I absolutely loathed to be associated with anything "femme" until not so long ago.

Re: When did gender become a thing for you?

[diet_poison]

omg. That sucks so much and I'm really sorry that happened to you =(

Things like that just...GAH. I would have been an angry, miserable, rebellious bastard. I wasn't because people around me growing up were pretty flexible with how I chose to express myself even though it wasn't very "female" for a while. (And I'm a cis woman, no intention or desire to not ID as female. I'm just not a very traditional one. xD)

Man I never knew at the time how lucky I was...

Re: When did gender become a thing for you?

[lynx]

It's okay. It sucked hard, indeed, and... well, I won't lie, it led to a lot of trouble along the years. But it formed part of what I am today so the only thing I regret about it is that my parents never got the nuns to fire that teacher, because the teacher forced me to say I made it up when confronted with the social assistant from the Ministry of Education, and it all ended up on nothing. At least I got the fuck out of there and switched schools on the middle of 3rd year.

I was exactly that, ahaha. Angry, miserable and rebellious. Also very very VERY uncomfortable with the idea of unbreakable gender roles, so who knows, maybe that old hag did me a pyrrhic favor.

I'm glad you never had to go through something like that! Having freedom to express oneself is priceless. I also think you don't have to fit as the cookie-cutter "female" to ID as a cis woman, though, so you keep rocking on :3bb

Re: When did gender become a thing for you?

[diet_poison]

I'm glad you are able to see it somewhat positively after the fact! And what a shame she never got fired. People like that shouldn't be in positions of influence over children.

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