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for the past month or so, I've been going to the gym 6 days a week to run. lately, my workout has been about 30 minutes' worth of running (split into 10/10/10, 15/15, or 20/10 with a minute's walk where the slash is) at around 5.3-5.5 mph and then another half hour of walking with incline at 3.5-4.0 mph. I'm in a new area without any real friends, so working on my fitness has been the only thing I have to look forward to these days. every day I do a little bit better (not counting bad workout days, which I know a lot of people have here and there) and alternate my speeds and times. it's been going well.

two days ago though, I saw an acquaintance before I started my run. after I finished, I saw her in the stretching area and decided to go say hello. I commented on how she looked like she had had a great workout, and she said, "well, usually I run a full six miles, but today I only got to four and a half!"

I let it roll off at the time, but inside I knew it was bothering me because with my workout--which is only half running--I usually max out at four and half miles, and by then, I'm ready to be done. this is why I never bring up specifics of working out with anyone; I always get self conscious like this. and in the two days since, I've been pushing my body past its limits and ending the workout shaking and feeling like I'm about to explode. it's scary and painful--and I know I'm only going this far because of some imaginary standard set by this girl who is thinner than me.

today I did manage to burn 536 calories after a solid hour, but my head hurts and I'm exhausted beyond belief and I just want this to be over. but I'm stuck with this FAT that I just can't get rid of no matter what I do! I don't know how much longer I can live like this.

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... This is actually the reason I quit going to the gym, and I'm pretty sure I do not have a disorder.

I kind of am--I let myself eat what I want at breakfast (small dining hall, so there are only so many options anyway) and lunch or dinner is a nice bowl of lettuce and spinach (I don't like salad dressing or croutons, luckily) with a glass or two of water. I've thought about cutting out carbs at breakfast, but like I said, I'm really limited with choices.

I have seen people cover up the numbers on the machines, but those people are always a lot more fit than I am. if I get to a certain speed and time maybe I can consider trying that. thank you for responding btw.

This sounds like it's bordering on a dangerous obsession, OP.

What other things do you have in your life, apart from exercise & calories?
Do you read books, enjoy movies, games? Whatever it is, just find something to focus on besides exercise.

And this: I don't know how much longer I can live like this. sounds particularly concerning to me, OP.

If you can find someone to talk to about this - a counselor, a therapist, anyone like that - please do so! I'm worried about you. You sound unhappy with life, and that's not a place I'd wish on anyone.

I don't really have anything else. I like watching movies and such, but the temptation to snack while doing so gets really high for me, plus I get distracted thinking about how much time I spend sitting in bed.

I'm really not happy but I'm in a situation that I can't change so this is kind of what I have to deal with for now. I really do appreciate your concern though, and thank you for responding.

you've been doing it for a month

From the way it sounds, she's been at it longer.

It takes time to build up your endurance. It takes a shit load of time to lose weight. And everybody is different. Don't compare yourself to anyone but yourself.

You're just eating salad for dinner? What.

Stop.

Right now.

You need protein. You need carbs (healthy ones!). You need healthy fats and so much more just to get through the day.

If you DON'T get those things, your body is hanging on to every last precious piece of fat it has, because you are starving it and it is trying not to die.

You shouldn't eat less than 1300 calories a day. And if you feel like you absolutely have to snack? Eat something substantial, like a handful of nuts.

Before you work out, have a banana. Sure it has a lot of sugar, but unless you're diabetic, it's fuel (carbs/sugar), it's potassium (for your muscles!), and it's fiber (so you feel full!). Or you can eat it after you work out if it's left you feeling drained.

The most important thing you can do for your weight and health is to plan your meals. Look at what you're getting, and what you're not getting. If you think you're eating too much, but you're eating salads, you have the exact opposite problem sadly enough. I find it really hard when I'm making healthy food choices to eat ENOUGH food in the day, and so I have to go for something like a Kind nut/fruit bar or something.

I recommend going to join a site like myfitnesspal.com and try to get over your phobia of talking to others and comparing yourself. Ask them what they do that works for them. Talk to people who are educated and have had success. Especially people with a degree in this stuff.

My friend is in schooling to be a fitness trainer/kinesiologist, and has me eating 2000 calories on days that I work out. And if you think of a normal person who is not working out requiring 2000 a day to be healthy, anything in the range below (but NOT under 1300) creates the calorie deficit that starts burning fat.

So start slow. Don't beat yourself up. Make sure your body has what it NEEDS to be able to heal itself, or you're just going to kill your metabolism if you keep this up.

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