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⌈ Secret Post #2475 ⌋

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Bluh...at the moment I feel fed up because this morning I woke up to piano playing (oh and let me tell you a thing the piano is backed up against my room so my whole room gets the vibrations from the piano) at nine in the morning. I tried to sleep than woke up all cranky only to get more cranky because when I complained about the fact I was woken up they didn't BOTHER to even feel the least bit bad or even apologize.

I was treated as if I was a big petty bitch for even being annoyed which made me more annoyed and I asked why the fuck can't I switch rooms (I chose my room as a compromise because my sister who plays said room shaking piano) had to have the other one. I was told no because moving everything ("oh a whim" she believes) would hurt dad's back . (hey I'd be perfectly willing to help move if it meant peace.) So no that's horrible and selfish to ask. Then I asked why my sister had to practice at NINE in the morning. She pulled the "well because we're going to get YOUR birthday present and now I don't even want to get it". (if she had told me upfront that morning "sorry about the noise [sister's name] has to practice because we'll be out today birthday shopping" UPFRONT I would have cooled down and been fine.

But heaven fucking forbid the be SORRY for waking me up. No they shouldn't have to be sorry because it's their house and they can have her practice any time of the day even the middle of the night if they want to. and of course I usually sleep in so I'm petty for wanting to sleep in today. They're all up and they shouldn't have to "tiptoe around " to accommodate someone else.

and my dad sent my a text accusing me of "embarrassing myself" after all that.

The worst part is, If my sister and I were up before them and woke them up, I'd get a lecture about how I'm selfish for not letting them sleep.

Maybe I should have been less cranky about it. But when I live with this kind of "don't complain you're wrong" atmosphere it gets hard to cope. They 'll sooner threaten to take my adapter away then listen to me though, because explaining myself in anyway whatsoever is making excuses.

Does your sister play at odd hours often? It seems like it would be reasonable to change rooms if she does. (Nine in the morning isn't that odd but sometimes I'm still asleep then too.) Maybe you or your parents know some people who could come over and do it instead of your dad?

Just trying to be constructive here...

Usually she plays in the evenings and there have been a few times she played early on a sunday morning with no reason given. Probably to get some practice in before church.

We don't really know anyone here very well. Besides my mom thinks this whole piano thing is a whim. I've gotten bothered by it before. and it makes my mom furious. She is crazy defensive of the piano and even saying so much as "it makes my room vibrate and that bothers me" is enough to have her not want to talk to me for hours.

I'm sorry , thank you for offering help.

How old are you?

I'm 23 going on 24.

I can't drive cause I was never allowed. My Dad doesn't want to spend money to send me to college because he is so sure I won't do well (even after I went to community college and passed my first half year with As and Bs.)

I can't really leave so i'm kinda stuck here until I get a job. Sorry if this sounds whiny. I just need to relieve stress sometimes.

It's not that you were whining. I get needing to vent. It was more like the utter refusal to take any responsibility for your behavior. The need to excuse yourself and assign blame to everyone else, i.e. saying you would have calmed down if you had known the interruption would have later benefited you via b-day gift, came across as pretty immature. So did the seeming belief your family should have to "tip-toe" around their own house every day to let you sleep in. Let alone that you seem to think your dad's back hurting would be no big deal because you would have "helped" him move YOUR stuff.

In all of that I came away thinking I would most likely side with your family even only hearing your side of the story. You just come across as if you place your wants over your family's priorities and expect them to do the same.

But whatever, it seems like you still have some life experience to gain and your family is probably a lot at fault for enabling you and this was just a random vent, I don't know you at all. That's just how you came across in this instance.

I'm sorry..yeah I was selfish and got all worked up. In retrospect switching rooms isn't what would fix the problem. Just moving to another room.
What I really would have like is just....even without explaining why just at least...try to care that they woke someone up. I actually wouldn't have cared if they mentioned why or not really. Some consideration instead of amusement that I woke up to my room shaking.

I was mean and selfish and bitchy this morning and wrote that thing when I was wrapped up in an argument. so yeah it probably sounds selfish.

Eyyup you're a spoiled brat ^^

Have fun being shitty

...yeah....I kinda get that now...looking back

I honest to God pity anyone who has to put up with you. Grow the fucking fuck up.

I'm the anon you originally replied to. Would just like to make it clear I do not agree with or condone the treatment you're getting from da.

Wait, you mentioned evenings and 9am. Unless your definition of 'evening' is past midnight, I think that's a plenty fine gap where there's no piano playing going on. In fact, 9am by itself is pretty damn late.

You also said you're 23/24 and staying at your parent's house? Unless you're paying them rent (in which case I take this all back), they don't have to be sorry for anything. It's their house and they can do whatever they want and permit whatever they want in it. Especially if it's something as minor as letting their other daughter practice piano at what seems to be reasonable hours of the day.

I was but I had to quit my job when we moved. Looking for another one.

and I realize that my rant seems shitty and entitled and I sound like a brat looking back. Something about the sound of piano in my room bugs me and ...what makes me the most frustrated is that I can't pinpoint WHAT bothers me... at recitals its fine. But in this room in this tiny house...it just augh.

I feel really bad about it. I just kinda wish at the TIME they had actually just cared a little. Technically I laid there at 9:01 to 9:30 or so trying to ignore it...every time I hear it I find myself asking why it bothers me so much. I wish I knew.

I know I sound awful, looking back. I was snitty and mean and didn't listen to my mom. and i probably sound like i'm making excuses now.

I know I sound really shitty. I wish I hadn't wrote this at all.

You don't sound shitty or entitled, and I really don't get why everyone is on your case for being upset at how inconsiderate your family is being. Random piano playing at 9am that wakes you up because your room is right there is neither necessary or a decent way to treat you, and you've offered your sister the piano-proximate room but been rebuffed. I can't imagine how awful it must be to be trapped in that house with parents that seem dead-set on preventing you from working your way out but treat you so disrespectfully while you're living there. I hope things get better. *hugs*

They were on her back all the time when she wrote something about her life some time ago - at least I'm assuming, from all that was written, that this is the same anon who had such problems finding a job and whose parents wouldn't let her drive. I don't know why people feel the need to get so irrationally angry at strangers on the internet, but well, that's just the way it is.

Wear earplugs when you go to sleep. They probably won't block out everything but if you're already asleep when she starts playing it might prevent you from waking up entirely.

Other than that, 9 am sounds like a pretty reasonable tome to be up and about.

Also, my brother practices viola at 7 am before he goes off to school every day. I'm not living in my parents house most of the time, but when I am and trying to sleep in I just remember I did the same in high school when he was probably trying to sleep :P

Okay.

Thank you

You know, you've made several of these venting posts since July, complaining about how insufferable your family are, and each time you make one, you sound more and more bratty and entitled.

I know I realize that.

I feel horrible about it now.

I realize that I was being really awful and snitty when I wrote this. I realized that I had been really selfish over the past few weeks looking for a job and taking out my frustration on my situation with my family and bitching about the drama here.

Looking back at this post I just hate how I sounded so much and I wish I could punch myself.

I was shitty and entitled and bitchy and most of all immature. I realize this and I'm sorry I've started actually talking things out with my parents and finding ways to get better and avoid fighting in the future. Maybe if I stopped being so damn selfish and thinking about me, me me then just maybe my horrible personality will get better.

That is all, thank you for being honest with me so I could realize this better and not think i'm right and go on to be more selfish and self centered.

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