[ SECRET POST #2478 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2478 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[rune factory 4]


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03.
[Law & Order]


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04.
[Wander Over Yonder]


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05.
[Breaking Bad]


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06.
[Transformers: IDW Generation One]


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07.
(Panic! at the Disco)


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08.
[Luke Evans as Bard the Bowman in "The Hobbit: The Desolation of Smaug"]


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09.
[league of legends pro teams - team curse]




















Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 027 secrets from Secret Submission Post #354.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

Re: Hi im fandom friend secret writer from a few days back

[(Anonymous)]

I don't know about developing overnight, but I sometimes feel irrationally anxious about responding to e-mails and other online communications, even when it's with close friends. I don't know why I feel this way and I KNOW it's ridiculous... but I still procrastinate on talking to people for no apparent reason, then I feel guilty about procrastinating which makes me feel even more nervous about responding to a communication, etc. etc.

It's not personal, and I don't think it necessarily means she has a problem with you specifically. I know that when I'm feeling particularly depressed, I get very socially withdrawn and it's just more difficult to talk to people because putting a brave face on it takes more effort than I can currently give.

My advice is to not make your friend feel guilty about the lack of communication, not even in a joking way. There's no point in making her feel bad, because if the problem is real she's already struggling with it, and if the problem is fake then guilt-tripping her (even by accident!) isn't going to change anything. Send short e-mails letting her know what you're up to, or talk about things you saw/read that reminded you of her. Keep the tone light and friendly, and expect to do most of the work in keeping the conversation going. Tell her you hope she's all right. Don't apply any pressure about responding, and see how things go.

Re: Hi im fandom friend secret writer from a few days back

[(Anonymous)]

Thanks for the advice! I sometimes feel nervous about emails, it was just so weird to see someone who's been emailing me for so long suddenly be nervous about it I didn't know how to react. I guess it made me a little anxious myself. I forgot how hard it can be to do even simple things because on most days I can make myself do them if I have to. I'd never purposely try to make her feel guilty for something like this, especially since I have such a similar problem.