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⌈ Secret Post #2489 ⌋

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[(Anonymous)]

Not OP but I think you're forgetting that parents are parents for as long as they and their children are alive. OP stands to gain a healthy relationship with their mother or at least the chance to have a relationship that isn't harmful. It could also mean having a relationship (or a better one) with other family members.

Example: My own mother is horrible and I hate her but I can't cut her out of my life without cutting the rest of my family out, too. I won't do that so it means putting up with her. I'm 35 and she can't hurt me the way she used to but that doesn't mean she doesn't try and our interactions aren't good for me. But it means I can still have my father and sister in my life so I call her regularly and keep up the pretense that we're a normal mother-daughter pair.

[lunabee34]

Thank you for saying this.

I'm 34 years old and have a fraught relationship with a lot of my family. Just because I'm not a child anymore doesn't mean that my parents don't have the power to hurt me. You also don't stop wanting your parents to be proud of you or to validate your life choices just because you're a grown up yourself. Because I *am* a grown up, I find validation in other ways but that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt my feelings to know that my parents are disappointed in me because I don't share their religious or political beliefs; that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt when they favor my brother (not his fault BTW) simply because he *does* share their outlook on life.

I'm a little bothered by the tone of this thread that somehow adults shouldn't be bothered by the way their parents treat them or have treated them in the past.

(I was not abused by my parents, and I don't hate them in case that wasn't clear)