[ SECRET POST #2505 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2505 ⌋

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Wait, does this mean I'm actually trans and just don't know it?

[nyxelestia]

I just got a new boyfriend, our relationship is complicated enough. He's going to be so confused, the poor thing.

In all seriousness, I sometimes have an affection for masculine clothing, and I'm told that my personality is rather masculine, as well (especially for someone of my ethnicity, apparently -_-). And I'm bisexual. But I still identify pretty firmly as a woman, and not even a particularly masculine or manly one at that.

The definition of genderqueer, in the usage/colloquial context, keeps changing so much I'm never sure whether I "qualify" or not. -_-

Re: Wait, does this mean I'm actually trans and just don't know it?

[(Anonymous)]

NO. For goodness sake, "masculine" personality doesn't exist, nor does "feminine" personality. Your personality is yours and has nothing to do with your gender. Nor do your clothes - being a woman is defined ONLY by identifying as a woman.

Man, I wish I could cut the words "masculine" and "feminine" from the dictionary, except to talk about, perhaps, physical appearance and/or stereotypes.

Re: Wait, does this mean I'm actually trans and just don't know it?

[nyxelestia]

I'm pretty sure that's part of the problem, though. What is a woman? Is a woman just having a feminine appearance? The feminine stereotypes? If it's just on the basis of genitalia, what if you feel no identification with your genitalia beyond the fact it's that thing between your legs? Is it the hormones? Except those can be radically different among women, and subject to radical changes, too.

I don't identify as genderqueer. I am a woman, because that's what I was born as and I've got too much other shit to deal with to try and untangle it from there. But as much as I can, will, and do scoff at people who claim the genderqueer title arbitrarily just because it's the trendy thing to do, I can also see how someone might look at the complexity of gender and go "well, I don't fit into my gender's stereotypes so I'm not what I was born is, but I don't identify with the opposite gender's stereotypes so I'm not trans, either...guess I'm genderqueer!"