[ SECRET POST #289 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #289 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 07 pages, 176 secrets from Secret Submission Post #042.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 ] broken links, [ 1 2 3 ] not!secrets, [ 1 2 3 ] not!fandom, [ 1 ] personal attack.
Next Secret Post: Tomorrow, Monday, October 22nd, 2007.
Current Secret Submission Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[slatterly.livejournal.com]

6. THIS HAS OFFICIALLY MADE MY DAY HOLY CRAP.

28. I don't see why your friendship needs to be ruined by the fact that you can't make out with her. Geez. She's "out of your reach" if she lives in Malaysia and refuses to talk to you. Not screwing you isn't worth freaking out over if you're already as close as your secret would indicate.

re: 28

[(Anonymous)]

Because having romantic feelings for someone who is for some reason unable reciprocate it -- whether it is because they're asexual or just plainly unavailable -- is painful and uncomfortable and can put strains in a friendship, especially if you're close and the person in question can read your emotions like a book. Because personal relationships are difficult and complicated and involve significantly more than 'screwing' and 'making out' -- they go both ways and when you invest a certain kind of feeling into someone and they cannot return it on the same level, it sends your relationship out of step, like one person is always one step ahead of the other, and yeah, no one wants that but it happens. It's selfish to want the other person on the same page as you when you know they legitimately can't be, but you want it anyway.

Not the OP, probably overstepping my boundaries here and navel-gazing to boot, but God, your comment really bothered me. I'm sorry, it's just so insensitive and belittling. Having someone you care for be emotionally unavailable in any sense is much worse than overcoming distance and superficial separation -- I would rather take the Malaysia option.

Re: 28

[slatterly.livejournal.com]

Eh, I guess I understand where you're coming from, but I've never been able to understand how a physical relationship is anything more than a fun bonus to a close friendship. Personally, I've never had a relationship that didn't get less interesting as soon as kissing got involved. You can have the most intense and amazing relationships with people without anything that could really be considered "romantic" and it weirds me out when I see people thinking this is somehow less good just because there's no physical aspect.

Or I could just be bitter over losing a really close amazing friend when he couldn't deal with the fact that I didn't want to make out with him anymore. Whatever! It's still weird to me.

re: 28

[(Anonymous)]

Because having romantic feelings for someone who is for some reason unable reciprocate it -- whether it is because they're asexual or just plainly unavailable -- is painful and uncomfortable and can put strains in a friendship, especially if you're close and the person in question can read your emotions like a book. Because personal relationships are difficult and complicated and involve significantly more than 'screwing' and 'making out' -- they go both ways and when you invest a certain kind of feeling into someone and they cannot return it on the same level, it sends your relationship out of synch, like one person is always one step ahead of the other, and yeah, no one wants that but it happens. It's selfish to want the other person on the same page as you when you know they legitimately can't be, but you want it anyway.

Not the OP, probably overstepping my boundaries here and navel-gazing to boot, but God, your comment really bothered me. I'm sorry, it's just so insensitive and belittling. Having someone you care for be emotionally unavailable in any sense is much worse than overcoming distance and superficial separation -- I would rather take the Malaysia option.

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[(Anonymous)]

where in the op's secret did he say he wanted to screw?

Re: 28

[slatterly.livejournal.com]

Uhhhh, he said he was interested in her romantically which usually, in non-asexuals, involves sex at some point. Excuse me for not wanting to use "making out" twice.