[ SECRET POST #2511 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2511 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[The Hobbit]


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03.
[The Fly 1986]


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04.
[Slightly Damned]


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05.
[Game Of Thrones]


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06.
[DC Comics]


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07.
[NCIS]


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08.
[Roosterteeth]


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09.
[Mass Effect]
[Art: The Shepard Siblings, by bigcman321]


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10.
[Easy A]


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11.
[Sleepy Hollow]


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12.
[Sir David Attenborough]


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13.
[New Tricks]


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14.
[Hannibal (NBC)]









Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 04 pages, 078 secrets from Secret Submission Post #359.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

"I'm sorry, I don't want to have sex with anyone, ever"

I'd rather use this, because now some people call themselves (occasionally) asexual even if they have sex due to -reasons-. So calling yourself asexual gets the "Oh, you just haven't met the right person" response. Thanks, Tumblr. One more reason to stay the hell away from the asexual community.

[feotakahari]

Asexual doesn't necessarily mean you won't have sex, it just means you don't have a sex drive. Many (most?) people who're asexual can still fall in love, and they're often willing to engage in sex to make their partners happy.

[(Anonymous)]

And that makes it completely useless as a definition, because it can mean anything.

"I can choose to have or not to have sex. Sometimes I have it because I want to, sometimes I have it to make my partner happy."
"..Okay?"

"No, not ever", says it much better in my case.

[(Anonymous)]

If you're asexual it means you don't want to have sex, not ever. You might really really REALLY want to be a dad, though, and having sex with your (presumably also asexual) wife just once might be worth it.

[(Anonymous)]

I had a sexually-active married asexual friend once who told me that she has sex because her partner enjoys it. He understands that she doesn't love it, and doesn't pressure her to do so a lot, but from time to time they'll have intercourse. She doesn't HATE it, but she doesn't like it or take pleasure from it.

Which seemed incredibly creepy and wrong to me, so I asked her to elaborate, if she didn't mind. She laughed and said it was like when you watch a genre of movie you dislike, or go to a sporting game/hiking with someone even though you don't like to. You want to share a moment with them, and THEY like the moment, so you get second-hand pleasure from it.

I said I understood. Although I'm not sure I do. Perhaps it's the stigma and weight our society puts on sex, but somehow going to a football game seems much less of a personal imposition than letting a dude put his dick in me. But, hey, it's her choice and she's obviously quite happy so I suppose I've not a single cm of room to comment...

[elialshadowpine]

It makes sense to me. If the attitude is just "meh" vs. "OMG EW", it makes sense to me to do something that a partner wants because they like it. I'm not asexual, but I consider that I have participated in previous partner's kinks that were not mine, that I really couldn't understand what the big deal was about... but it was a big deal for them, and they wanted it, and I didn't object... I just wouldn't be actively interested for myself. I didn't get off on it but I enjoyed giving my partner that pleasure, if that makes sense?

That sounds like what it may be like for your friend, since she doesn't sound like she is particularly upset by it.

[gondremark]

A gay guy can have sex with a woman for whatever reason (old-fashioned fatherhood springs to mind, as does ill-advisedly trying to make a point) but that doesn't magically make him straight or bi or otherwise not gay.
By the same logic, an asexual person can have sex and still be asexual.

"You haven't met the right person yet" is what all asexuals get from all quarters, no matter their experience.
"Oh, you've banged eight dudes and five chicks? Well, you can't be asexual, you just haven't met Mr or Miss perfect yet."
"You say you don't want to have sex ever with anyone and that's why you haven't? Oh, you'll meet the right person and that will all change."