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01. http://i.imgur.com/BuuK8Ln.jpg

While I don't agree with the OP, I just wanted to say that I love that pic!!! Always have. :)

Agreed, I really like that picture!

But usually the stalker is having really creepy thoughts.

Except...a lot of times in fiction, they aren't? In fiction, romantic stalker characters are often having naive longing innocent "omg I love that person so much I could listen to them read the phonebook and I want to just watch them all the time and know everything about them because they are perf."

That's not a stalker, that's someone with a crush. Stalker takes it to the creepy level.

And bad fiction treats stalkers like innocent moonstruck teenagers.

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(Anonymous) - 2013-11-24 21:47 (UTC) - Expand

They would be a stalker if they thought all that while hiding in a bush outside their crush's window.

maybe I'm just a huge cynical asshole but if the characters are older than, say, fifteen, everything you just said is still super creepy.

I LIKE FICTIONAL STALKING, let's be clear here, but one of the reasons I like it is because it's so damn creepy.

There is a giant list of things I find hot that would be very creepy and/or completely inappropriate in real life.

This forever

Yes, I think this is a really common sentiment. Sometimes I wish I could feel this way, too :/ As it is, events in fiction always inspire in me exactly the same feelings as they would in real life.

I really don't think you would actually want to be the other way, dmw. Something wrong with folks, IMO, and I honestly don't think they can unconsciously make as much of a disconnect as they claim to be making. (I am using the general "they" before anyone jumps.)

one disconnect is if real people are in danger. we all know if Ed goes for Bell it's all going to end in porn. if someone is stalking me I may be killed.

this. this is exactly why i can like villainous characters despite them doing things i would find hideous in real life.

I completely agree. Knowing things from the stalkers POV and also knowing that 9/10 the author is not going to let anything happen to the stalked character helps a lot. It's why I can deal with stalking behavior from fictional characters when I have zero tolerance IRL.

Even if the fictional stalker has the purest of hearts, they're still invading someone else's space and disrespecting their privacy so it's not that different from real life.

+1

If they are stalking at all they do not have the purest of hearts to begin imo.

Suddenly this feels kinda relevant.

lol

Me too! But not like obsessive creepy, shrine-making stalker.

Just the kind who is awkward and wants to know about them so they follow them around and stuff.

...I don't think anyone is in doubt as to what the cat in OP's pic is thinking!

"I CAN HAZ DIN-DIN NAO?"

I hardly think this is unusual...though to be fair the thoughts we know aren't always innocent.

A lot of times we like something in our fiction that we know we wouldn't in real life.

I've been stalked, by my own mother of all people. It's not something that's easy to get over.

I've felt this way before about some fictional stalkers, but only the ones who are too young to understand the consequences of their actions, or have some other reason to be socially inappropriate and simply not REALIZE that following someone around obsessively can be taken to mean anything but "I like you and am interested in your life." If the character is like, say, Edward - adult, neurotypical, and has had a perfectly normal upbringing with absolutely no reason NOT to have learned that stalking is inappropriate behavior -it still creeps me out even if the thought process behind it is innocent.

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