[ SECRET POST #2527 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2527 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Oh, cool your ass. I am not the person who suggested that step-parents/children are "not real family." Even though many of them not infrequently behave as if they didn't regard one another in that light.

Also: I did not suggest that it was normal in the US to treat one's child as a tenant rather than a family member. My point, which seems to have escaped you, is that home is supposed to be the place where, when you have to go there, there will always be a place for you--but on the other hand, that an adult child returning to the parental home behaves as a member of the household who has an adult duty to contribute to it. Not as a guest to whom the other members of the household have a duty of hospitality, or as a small child who has a right to expect their parents to care for them and can't be expected to do a great deal in return.

And this is apparently how things are seen in your culture--your parents would not dream of putting your relationship on a cold-blooded pecuniary footing, but on the other hand, you would not come home and expect to be waited on like a guest or catered to like a small child. So I don't get why you are screaming "IT'S A CULTURAL DIFFERENCE OKAAAAAY?"

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AYRT

Ok, sorry that you weren't that anon. It something that hit too close to home and it's hard to stay calm after that, that's why I stepped back for a while.

But, you missed my point?
It's a cultural difference because here it's different. It's not an owned duty, it's not about having to do something. That's all and it's something that seems small and yet it isn't.

I'm too sleepy to try to express it clearly, so I'll leave it at that.

[(Anonymous)]

No, no--my post seems unnecessarily snarky to me now, so I'd like to apologize as well.

Still, I think I see your point--if there's a cultural difference, it may be that in America, people need to treat something as a pecuniary obligation--even to the extent of spelling it out in contracts--that you would do as a matter of course. It's that even where money isn't changing hands, it's still often spoken of, here, in a very legalistic way--quid pro quo--all counting up and measuring out, with a fear of doing something for someone else that isn't directly compensated.

[(Anonymous)]

(different anon)
So you, as an adult living with your parents, could just watch TV all day and yell for your parents to bring you food when you're hungry, and they'd happily do it because that's okay in your culture?

[(Anonymous)]

I'm pretty sure this anon said the exact opposite: that in their culture, "we manage not to be entitled brats"--i.e., adult children are contributing members of the household without parents demanding "payment" for being allowed to live at home.

[(Anonymous)]

But they could behave like that if they wanted to, right?

I'm really curious where that anon is from. I kinda want to say Thailand, but I know a woman from Thailand (who never moved out of her parents' house), but she's told me stories where her adult siblings and brother in law behave like spoiled asses, so that can't be right.