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⌈ Secret Post #2534 ⌋

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[Guild Wars 2]

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[Perry Mason]

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[Sleepy Hollow]

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[My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic; gorefic]

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[Marco Mengoni/Max Pezzali (883)]

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[Hetalia]

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[Once Upon a Time and Uncanny X-Men]

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[Borderlands 2]

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[Elementary]

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[Rise of the Guardians. Art by Rufftoon.]

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[Mabinogi]

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[minecraft/C418]

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[The Big Bang Theory]

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My parents recently got a suggestion to get me to spend less time on the computer and decided to limit internet time per day to four hours. I don't get chances to get out much since I have no ways of driving at the moment. and can only really talk to people at church on sunday.

It sucks. I wish they would get that forcing family time on me is NOT going to make me enjoy it. I mean I enjoy getting out of the house when I get a chance. It's not like I pass up chances to go out to spend time on the computer. The doctor suggested two walks a day. Not this.

*grumbles*

I wish that they would get that the internet is my de-stressing time. Just like my mom watches TV when she wants to unwind and on boring days she'll watch it a lot. Maybe the idea of spending long amounts of time online is foreign to them but for me it's like social interaction. I mean I have a very close friend group I talk to in Skype and being with them makes me happy and a lot of them are like me.

But this probably sounds stupid.

How is four hours--a quarter of your daily waking life--not enough time to spend reading fic and going on social media? Granted, it's pretty hypocritical of them to restrict your internet time when they may well be spending as much or more time glued to the TV. But somehow, even television is not as isolating as internet use.

Plus, people do have this thing about feeling that a member of the household is holing up in their room and shunning the rest of them. It bothers most of us.

well....thing is I'm looking for a job unable to go anywhere without assistance. Internet access is my portal to the world without having to depend on anyone else to take me places. It's not just reading fanfics and social media. It's talking to a support group of people through Skype so I don't get lonely.

I love going out places with them and jump at the chance, and when my sister and her bf come over or my brother is here I spend less time on my computer than usual. I come out occasionally to stretch my legs and attempt to make small talk sometimes. But sometimes when I'm called out randomly from doing something just to spend a few minutes and...I just don't know what to say and it's awkward and sometimes I get sniped at if someone's in a mood. I just....urghhh it's so uncomfortable. I like being social during events...but most of the time I like being on the computer working on personal projects in my room.

Not to mentions sometimes when I talk to my parents I'll talk about something I'm interested until they 're like "okay.. that's enough" and ...Idk I just feel like they don't care about what I have to say. and I don't know how to talk about anything else....I just.. communication and social skills are difficult for me.

True: it's unpleasant to be called away from something you're absorbed in, only to find that the person who summoned you so peremptorily just wanted you to look at a commercial they thought was cute. Worse still to venture out only to be made a scapegoat for someone else's bad mood. And worse than that, to be treated as if what you have to say is not worth hearing. (An ex-boyfriend of mine used to cut me off in mid sentence with "Excuse me, my eyes are glazing over here"--which is one of the reasons he's now ex, and good riddance.) I'm sorry you're in that situation.

Still, four hours seems like a fairly adequate chunk of time to spend online every day--you still have your job search, your walking, and other things to do, and four hours out of sixteen seems like a reasonable online/offline balance. The trick to making the best use of your scarce online time is to budget it like you'd budget your time in any other pursuit. Plan in advance how you're going to spend it, in the way that will give you the most satisfaction you can get in four hours. You can't do everything you might like to do, every day--any more than E. B. White could do everything on his to-do list in the terrific essay "Memorandum"--

TODAY I should carry the pumpkins and squash from the back porch to the attic. The nights are too frosty to leave them outdoors any longer. And as long as I am making some trips to the attic I should also take up the boat cushions and the charts and the stuff from the galley and also a fishing rod that belongs up in the attic. Today I should finish filling in the trench we dug for the water pipe and should haul two loads of beach gravel from the Naskeag bar to spread on top of the clay fill. And I should stop in and pay the Reverend Mr. Smith for the gravel I got a month or two ago and ask him if he has seen a bear.

(You get the idea. And it ends--I'm paraphrasing here--"well, it's starting to be dark outside, so I had better get going. Specially as I need to get a haircut while I am at it.")

Good luck!

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