[ SECRET POST #2535 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2535 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Comments

Re: cw: rape

[ill_omened]

That doesn't make up the overwhelming majority of rapists.

The idea of a man not knowing that having sex with a passed out girl is rape is pretty much a myth. Most are serial predators who are entirely aware of what they're doing.

Now this doesn't make 'don't rape campaigns' completely non-effective because those predators function within rape cultures, and non-rapists will make those excuses for them, so demolishing that can stop the support they feel they have.

Re: cw: rape

[blunderbuss]

Considering how many times I've seen people get outraged that having sex with a very drunk person is legally considered rape, I wouldn't be so sure that it's a myth. Hell, I've seen people get angry that not stopping after hearing 'no' is rape. (Looking at you, Dan Savage and your shitty fans.)

Re: cw: rape

[ill_omened]

http://yesmeansyesblog.wordpress.com/2009/11/12/meet-the-predators/

http://www.wcsap.org/sites/www.wcsap.org/files/uploads/webinars/SV on Campus/Repeat Rape.pdf

(David Lisak and Stephanie McWhorter are the word in studying rape in a college and military enviroment).

http://www.middlebury.edu/media/view/240951/original/PredatoryNature.pdf

"Many of the motivational factors that were identified in incarcerated rapists have been shown to apply equally to undetected rapists. When compared to men who do not rape, these undetected rapists are measurably more angry at women, more motivated by the need to dominate and control women, more impulsive and disinhibited in their behavior, more hyper-masculine in their beliefs and attitudes, less empathic and more antisocial."

The men who take advantage of drunk women are not typically normal nice guys involved in a messy communication issue of mistaken consent or female regret. They are deliberately seeking out women in vulnerable positions so they can act out feelings of anger.

So why bother with posters and media campaigns?

http://journals.cluteonline.com/index.php/CIER/article/viewFile/1201/1185

"Rather than focusing prevention efforts on the rapists, it would seem far more effective to focus those efforts on the far more numerous bystanders – men and women who are part of the social and cultural milieu in which rapes are spawned and who can be mobilized to identify perpetrators and intervene in high-risk situations."

Re: cw: rape

[blunderbuss]

Huh. I'll have to read through these, but I stand corrected I guess.

Re: cw: rape

[(Anonymous)]

No, it's not a myth. Who's telling them it's rape? Nobody I know. I didn't know because I never heard it called rape. You could tell from the way everyone talks, the way media talks about it. They always call it "having sex" not "rape". So unless "this is rape" is some special kept man secret, it can't be a myth that nobody knows.