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I checked out a guy and considered him thoughtfully for about a good 5 minutes.

It was a bit disorientating. Anyone had anything similar?

Of course. Most people will, at some point, run into a person so ridiculously sexy and unforgivably good looking or charismatic that they're libido goes "WANT!" no matter WHAT they thought their orientation or sexuality was before.

I'm mostly amused at myself. It wasn't a "HI I WANT YOU NOW" but it was 5 minutes of "Hm, yes, nice features, nice hair, nice posture, nice voice, seems nice...A++ would marry".

An interesting surprise.

WELCOME TO MY HIGH SCHOOL EXPERIENCE

I must be having a late highschool-after-highschool moment.

Better late than never?

I suspect this is a common experience, OP.

Sometimes you just see someone so attractive it's like they descended from the heavens on a cloud of sexy light.

I think I'll just have to roll with it. He was pretty cute.

maaan Jenna Marbles had a video about 'girlcrushes' that I was like gpoy to. "I don't know if I wanna be you or be on you, can I just fuckin' stare at you till I figure it out?"

It could be I want to be him, I did meet him in a "this is the guy working for us since you left" type situation. He seems to be doing an okay job too.

More contemplative moments, hah!

Oh NoeZ!!! I might have the faggotz! How will I ever cope being a disgusting homo!!!!1!

Grow up you fucking manchild.

You first.

People are usually a bit uncomfortable when they find that they like something outside of their sexual identity, especially is they've been labeling themselves with something that doesn't match up.

well, that escalated quickly.

lol

I'm a lesbian...

~~lmao~~

Hi! I am too, and this does happen to me. One time it happened three times in the same day, all different guys. My best friend is a gay man and there are some women he finds attractive. Some dudes are just pretty.

Ok, shit, fair enough that's my bad, but you really should have made some reference to that fact in the post. You must be able to see how someone could read your post and assume it's coming from the mind of a homophobic male neckbeard, right? It's still mea culpa, but I don't think I can be judged too harshly.

Not really? Her original post doesn't sound homophobic at all. She just said it was a bit disorienting. Even if she was a straight guy, straight guys are allowed to be a little confused sometimes. Sorry, I'm not trying to drag this out into a big thing, it just bothers me when people in general say, "Oh, X behavior is acceptable only if a woman/gay woman is doing it." There are guys out there who aren't total creeps, and there are plenty of lesbians who are.

tl;dr just try not to assume next time?

nayrt

I don't think I can be judged too harshly

Too late, I already think you're an asshole

You overreacted more to my post than I did to checking out a guy. Maybe you should go have a rest or something.

There was a certain point in my life where I thought I was gay. Not a long period, mind, but I had what I like to call the straight panic. Admitting to myself that, yeah I don't just have bisexual tendencies, I'm just sexual pansexual whatever the fuck anyone wants to call it, came rather easily since it was easy to discard my previous illusion that I had to "pick one" (that advice, thanks to some bad weirdos who shamed me at the time).

What was hard though was the feeling like I had some explaining to do to others who I had already introduced myself to as gay. Got a few looks, and I definitely lost queer points somehow since bisexuals don't count unless they're passing as gay, eh, but ah well. I do still have the tendency to introduce as gay in person though since that is where I sway for the most part (75%?). Mostly I just roll with it and admit to someone that they're hot or whatever and yank out my "sexuality is fluid, and I'm so comfortable enough with mine to know that you're a factual cutie ;)" speech.

Hell, I don't even think checking out the one guy makes you any less gay. That's just a man crush :U

I remember somewhere in my late teens or early 20s, seeing a Cranberries music video and realizing that I was entranced by the way the female lead singer was bouncing around and dancing in the exact same way I was entranced by Michael Stipe's bopping around in a couple of REM videos, and being momentarily confused. Eventually I came to the conclusion that it meant nothing because really I just like watching both of them dance in their offbeat, slightly awkward way, like they just don't care what anyone thinks of them.

And then there was the point a couple years later where I spent all night on the internet looking up pictures of this female j-pop singer because I could not get over how stunning her eyes (or more probably, the way she did her eye makeup) were, and no one seemed to believe me when I said it WASN'T a sexual attraction thing - I just found her eyes really aesthetically beautiful. I second-guessed for a bit, but no - I really genuinely did not want to do her. Or even kiss her or anything. I just wanted to stare at her eyes.

And not too long after that was the point when a female friend confessed she had a crush on me, and it occurred to me that I had been feeling the exact same way about her that I had felt about every guy I'd dated, so I tried to imagine doing anything physical with her, and was like "...Ew. Nope."

But then realizing that trying to imagine doing anything physical with the guys I'd dated also got that reaction was what really started things clicking for me that I was asexual.

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