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Secret 12 - Characters in fiction, aging

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[Picture is Ted Mosby, as portrayed by Josh Radnor, from the TV series "How I Met Your Mother". He is a man with light olive skin, short, fluffy brown hair and dark eyes. He is wearing a dark gray shirt, a brown jacket and holding a yellow umbrella under the rain.]

I'm turning 30 in just over a week and I'm Scared To Death. I can't help comparing myself to all the characters I've seen on TV turning 30, and I find myself lacking. I still live with my parents, my shitty job doesn't even cover my few bills, I'm broke all the time, I'm overweight and I hate my appearance, I've never been married or had kids or even had a serious relationship. I dropped out of school after getting an Associate of Art degree, and I still don't know what I want to do with my life. I have friends who are older than me and are less well-off, so I know my life could be worse, but I often get so depressed that I barely have the energy to work and sleep, and then I get more depressed that I'm not doing more with my life.

I feel like I've wasted the last ten years.

Too long; didn't read: Fictional characters turning 30 have their lives way more put-together than mine, and that makes me depressed about my life.

Re: Secret 12 - Characters in fiction, aging

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I'm sure many other posters will tell you this, too, but what you see on TV is not realistic. A lot of TV characters in their 20s and 30s have nice, spacious apartments in major cities or trendy areas. IRL, they wouldn't be able to afford those apartments without having one or more roommates. Where I'm from, even studio apartments in desirable parts of town are starting to go for $900 or $1000 per month, and that's without utilities or any other perks.

Yes, some people in their 20s and 30s own houses or condos. Many don't. It all depends on your income.

Not everyone in their 20s and 30s has a house, a car, a spouse, or kids. Not everyone even WANTS those things.

People are living longer and longer, nowadays. It sounds like an awful cliche, but in some cases, I'd say 30 is the new 20.

But yeah, baristas and retail workers do not have cute, trendy apartments in desirable neighborhoods unless there's some other factors at play. At least, not in my experience. "Friends" ain't reality.

Your life is not over. You could go back to school, you could meet someone, you could look for a better job, all kinds of things could happen. I know all of those things are easier said than done. But, I don't know what else to tell you.

Personally, I don't understand why *anyone* wants to get married, unless they're super-eager to have kids. But, that's just me, and I know it's a very unpopular opinion.

The job market sucks, I know, but your first step might be to look for a slightly better job--not the career of your dreams, just a slightly better job--and then advertise for roommates so that you can move out of your parents' place and into a shared living situation.