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I keep having these feelings and I know they're destructive and unhealthy

[(Anonymous)]

It's gotten so easy for me to use myself as a punching bag lately. Like, I feel like hating on myself all the time, when I'm stressed about not having a job or the internet going out.

I've gotten the temptation to start a private hateblog about myself sometimes. I know it's a horrible unhealthy way to deal with stress but it's so addictive. I also end up feeling more guilty for having these thoughts and feelings and just AUGH

Has anyone else dealt with this kind of thing before?

Re: I keep having these feelings and I know they're destructive and unhealthy

[sarillia]

I've dealt with that, yeah.

It's not fun. And I know it probably won't help if I just tell you not to feel guilty. But really, there's no need. You're not morally obligated to deal with your stress in a healthy way.

One little trick I use when my thoughts start going in that direction is I start making the hate I direct toward me so exaggerated and goofy that I end up laughing and it breaks the momentum.

For a more long-term way of dealing, this is going to sound kind of silly but what really helped me was picking up knitting. I got to see some tangible proof that I didn't completely waste my day and then people would get all impressed and compliment my work and I got to feel proud of myself and it helped a lot.

So I guess I'd say, maybe try to find something you enjoy doing that you could get good at. There's a chance it could backfire because you could hold yourself to unrealistic standards, but if you're able to focus on enjoying yourself and celebrating what progress you do make, it can be a big help.

Re: I keep having these feelings and I know they're destructive and unhealthy

[(Anonymous)]

Thanks. I do have writing for that, sometimes I transfer my emotions to a piece of fiction. I need to remember to do that more often rather than attacking myself.

Re: I keep having these feelings and I know they're destructive and unhealthy

[(Anonymous)]

I definitely know how that goes. I don't think I'm especially good at dealing with those thoughts so I'm not sure how much I can actually help you. So it's not like I'm an expert or anything. And it's a really tricky thing to do - there's definitely the potential, as you point out, that it just turns into something else to yell at yourself for. It's so easy to move from "I'm such a shitty person because I'm lazy and unmotivated and don't work hard enough and can't figure shit out" to "I'm such a shitty person because I get unrealistic and worked up and wallow in my own misery and feel sorry for myself".

I guess for me I just try to remind myself that I'm being unrealistic and rational, that it's not a fair or an unbiased approach. Not to change the way I'm thinking or be positive - but to just try to get a handle on it and not change it but put it in perspective and calm it down. And the key is to do so in a way that doesn't care any blame - it's not anyone's fault that I'm being irrational, it's just something that's happening and I just need to ride it out and remember that it's not real.

I don't know. I hope you can figure out something that works for you. Good luck, anon.

Re: I keep having these feelings and I know they're destructive and unhealthy

[fingalsanteater]

Yes.