[ SECRET POST #2551 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2551 ⌋

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[Resident Evil movies]


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04. [SPOILERS for something but idk what]



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05. [SPOILERS for Frozen]



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07. [WARNING for rape]

[Martin Freeman]


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09. [WARNING for domestic abuse]















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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

It's actually pretty easy to profile a sociopath in real life. They'll have a criminal record (most likely even at an early age) and they are very impulsive. Meaning they'll lash out in anger or rage out of that same impulse simply because they do not care about the consequences and cannot fathom empathy. This all doesn't negate how dangerous they are though.

Narcissists though... Narcissists...are different. And in some ways, more dangerous and toxic than even a sociopath. There's even a term for the more ruthless ones, who are Narcissist Psychopaths. But, basically, narcissists lack any empathy and are just as ruthless as the sociopath. However, they're subtle. They'll try to avoid criminal charges at all costs. If they could get away with murder where it was practically guaranteed that they won't get caught, they would do it in a heartbeat if it was to their advantage. They're also incredibly manipulative, toxic people that know how to mess with their victims minds. They love emotional manipulation and gaslighting techniques, as long as it keeps people under their control. And they'll do anything to get power and control from people, because it feeds their narcissistic supply.

And the unfortunate thing about narcissists, is you can go for years unaware of their true nature (especially if you're just an acquaintance). It's only when you practically live with them that you get to see this evil side.

Although, you are right that it's rare to fall for a sociopath or a narcissist. But if you have any suspicions about a person who might be, it's best to get away from them for good.

(Sorry if I went on a ramble! I just am fascinated in studying these personality types which is why I chose to go into grad school for it.)

[(Anonymous)]

This is very unrelated to the thread, but my girlfriend was emotionally abused and the profile of the narcissist psychopath you're talking about sounds EXACTLY like the person who did that to her. I mean, everything of what you said is this person 100% and I started sweating just reading about it. I had no idea such a thing even existed, so could you give me good starting points to research this stuff?

[(Anonymous)]

SA

Getting basic information right now and even the most basic descriptions are so spot-on they're making me want to vomit. At this point I'm 100% certain this is the case she (and I, in a smaller measure) dealt with, so scratch the "good starting points" - any information you have, the more the better. Thank you so very much for your rambling, this is crucial information that we were missing and that I'm sure that will help her to recover.

AYRT

[(Anonymous)]

Sorry for getting back late! Here's a few links that might be able to help.

This is the DSM Criteria for what qualifies as someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder:

http://www.psi.uba.ar/academica/carrerasdegrado/psicologia/sitios_catedras/practicas_profesionales/610_clinica_cuadrosfront_psicosis/material/dsm.pdf

(You can find the qualifications on pages 9-10)


This is a documentary going further into the disorder:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ip-D4sExm9E


Here's a video going into "Body Language of Narcissistic and Psychopathic Abuser"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iFUuaw8Pf1M


Here's a detailed explanation on what is gaslighting, one of the narcissist's favorite techniques:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hllgfPCooYE


Here's examples of children who suffered abuse from a narcissistic parent and what warning signs they give out.

* http://www.lightshouse.org/the-narcissistic-parent.html
* http://parrishmiller.com/narcissists.html
* http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-intelligent-divorce/201303/the-narcissistic-father

And lastly, here's some information on the road to recovery from narcissistic abuse:

http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/no-contact-rule-recovering-from-narcissistic-abuse-0618136

I wish you and your girlfriend well. Narcissists are very insidious people who can do a lot of psychological damage to their victims. I would recommend therapy if your girlfriend has suffered PSTD or Depression from this abuse. The right therapist would be able to promote a healthy self-esteem in due time.

Re: AYRT

[(Anonymous)]

I don't know how to thank you for this. This will help us so much. A million times thank you.

[hiyami]

Seconding all that anon said about narcissists.
I've met some, and had some good friends fall for others. They are very good at hiding, and at making people (including their victims) think that there's nothing wrong with them and the problem comes from you.

[forgottenjester]

Um... I wasn't really talking about narcissists or sociopaths because I don't like giving real psychological conditions to fictional characters who are not explicitly stated as being a representative of one of those things. If other people do, that's fine, but for me I don't. It makes me feel uncomfortable.

I just called him an asshole because he's a huge asshole. I also only called the OP's hypothetical real life crushes, if she had bad taste, assholes. 'Cause, you know, otherwise she wouldn't have bad taste. (If she got duped by one of the people you're talking about I would still say she didn't have bad taste simply because she was tricked.)

My point wasn't so much that the OP won't recognize a person with these abusive disorders in real life, but rather that they cannot base an opinion of themselves over a fictional character. These characters aren't real. They don't accurately portray life. OP shouldn't feel bad about themself for not seeing a certain character arc. They should only feel like they need to look at their tastes should they find they're into a lot of real life asshole. And by assholes I just mean assholes, nothing more.

As for rambling, no, you're fine. I found your reply interesting. People are always fascinating when talking about something they're passionate about.