[ SECRET POST #2552 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2552 ⌋

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Facebook question

[(Anonymous)]

If you comment on a friends' FB status, and a friend of theirs completely overreacts to what you said and goes on a mean rant at you, should the friend whose post you commented on apologize? I ask because this happened to me, and my friend never said anything. I wondered what the normal protocol is?

Re: Facebook question

[(Anonymous)]

Your friend isn't responsible to make their friend who ranted at you apologize to you or apologize for their actions. If they choose to associate with that friend or disapprove of them ranting is a different matter.

It's likely your friend didn't know what to say because they didn't want to end up favoring one of their friends or didn't want to stir up more trouble.

Re: Facebook question

[(Anonymous)]

I don't see why? Sometimes my friends don't click with each other for whatever reason. I'm not responsible for their actions to each other and I'm not going to go back and forth apologizing for them. And maybe your friend doesn't realize how much it bothered you.

Re: Facebook question

[(Anonymous)]

Why should they? No, seriously, I *am* curious why you'd think that they should be apologizing to you for something someone else did?

I know that sounds jerky, but...I'm a bit baffled as to why you even need to ask.

Re: Facebook question

[shinyhappypanic]

I would probably say absolutely nothing, just like your friend did. it's a pretty awkward situation for them to be in. I think in situations like this I almost always see the original poster choosing not to step in.

Re: Facebook question

[caerbannog]

Nope, it's not their place to apologise because two of their friends decided to argue, they have no responsibility over yours or other-friend's comments.

If anything, them saying nothing and staying out of it sounds the best reaction.

Re: Facebook question

[nyxelestia]

Whether I would step-in or not is very context-dependent has a lot to do with the subject at hand and whether the debate is something that involves me or my post.

Regardless of whether I step in or not, I would never apologize to the ranted-at for what the ranter said or did, because I'm not the one that said or did them.

Re: Facebook question

[cassandraoftroy]

I don't think the mutual friend owes you an apology; if anything, I think the person who blew up at you owes both you AND the mutual friend an apology, for using the mutual friend's FB as a platform to be shitty to one of their other friends.

Re: Facebook question

[comma_chameleon]

Agreed. If some random friend of a friend went off on me on said mutual friend's post, I'd be embarrassed for THEM, but I wouldn't expect our mutual friend to apologize for someone else's behaviour.

Honestly, I'd probably privately message the other person and point out that if they've got a problem with something I've posted then they should message me personally, not muck up a friend's post with something like that, mostly because as someone said above, they shouldn't put our mutual friend in a position where they could potentially have to 'choose sides' or something of that ilk.

Also OP, I can't help but be curious as to what you could have said that would have set off a 'stranger'. But I'm nosy that way. XD

Re: Facebook question

[(Anonymous)]

I won't get into it in case they read F!S (based on how I know this friend it wouldn't surprise me), but essentially I think I ticked off an uber SJW.

And yeah, you're right that it should be up to the other person, rather than the mutual friend being put in a bad position.