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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2014-01-09 06:50 pm

[ SECRET POST #2564 ]


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Re: asdf;

(Anonymous) 2014-01-10 01:52 am (UTC)(link)
You don't have to answer if you'd rather not, but have you ever experimented with other genders? I'm assuming from your post that you've been sexually attracted to people at some point in your life... if not, then asexuality isn't out of the question for you.

Re: asdf;

(Anonymous) 2014-01-10 04:17 am (UTC)(link)
I feel like in any discussion about sex it's so weird, like "You haven't had a real orgasm, that's not what it's REALLY like." Like, if I have pleasure, it's real to me. I don't like feeling negated that way. That's not what you're doing here, but...the whole "sexually attracted to people" thing is not the right way to talk about asexuality. Asexual people can have sexual feelings, and the whole spectrum varies so much. (I'm still not sure where exactly I lie on it.)

I find some guys attractive. That attractiveness varies. Taylor Kinney makes me grin like a loon. But I wouldn't want him touching me.

For women, I am more likely to think "She's so cute / pretty / cool" and admire her, or wish I was that cool. I don't want a woman's touch either.

It's not something I really can talk about most places, so I don't mind this discussion here. But it's all a bit of a gray area, you know.

Am I "asexual enough." (That's not for anybody to decide but me, if or when I'm ready.)

Have I experimented with girls? (No. Nor guys either.)

I don't want to have sex, i.e. somebody touching me sexually. I don't find the idea appealing. Maybe that will change someday, maybe not.

But I sometimes get turned on, and I do enjoy reading gay romance.

Re: asdf;

(Anonymous) 2014-01-10 05:03 am (UTC)(link)
Well, that puts you well within the asexuality spectrum anon. And you don't have to get defensive about it. Nobody is telling you you have to fit some normative sexuality.

The only thing about orgasms is that there really is a definite thing that an orgasm is, and for females it involves uterine contractions, as well as contractions of the anal sphincter along with pleasurable sensations. It's one of those things that has a medical definition, so yeah, there is such a thing as a "real" orgasm.

I'm not trying to say that if you don't experience that you're automatically wrong or defective or lesser, I'm just saying that there's a definition at work.

Re: asdf;

(Anonymous) 2014-01-10 06:37 am (UTC)(link)
Ah, I thought it was just a convulsive pleasure thing. But actually that sounds like it...yeah.

Thanks for your thoughts.