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⌈ Secret Post #2564 ⌋

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asdf;

[(Anonymous)]

Oh geez, don't even get me started. :(

Reading het sex makes me very uncomfortable because none of it feels like it applies to me and if it does, I just want to go "EWWWW make it stop!"

It seems incredibly uncomfortable. Lightly touching my breasts and flexing my legs together and writhing a bit is the most it takes to get me off, and I only rarely need even that.

I am a thirty-two year old virgin and have no desire for a man to roughly touch me or pinch my nipples, much less put a penis inside me.

I might be asexual.... Then again, maybe not. Maybe there are other ways to be sexual.

I'm not bothered as much since I've finally accepted this about myself. I can still enjoy the fantasy of male/male sex (especially if not too graphic) since it's less connected to my body and more about desire and feelings than "ew I'd never feel good with that touch!" It just feels somehow better to me, especially since I don't have the constant WTF comparison with my own body and reactions.

Sorry if too much information.

Re: asdf;

[(Anonymous)]

You don't have to answer if you'd rather not, but have you ever experimented with other genders? I'm assuming from your post that you've been sexually attracted to people at some point in your life... if not, then asexuality isn't out of the question for you.

Re: asdf;

[(Anonymous)]

I feel like in any discussion about sex it's so weird, like "You haven't had a real orgasm, that's not what it's REALLY like." Like, if I have pleasure, it's real to me. I don't like feeling negated that way. That's not what you're doing here, but...the whole "sexually attracted to people" thing is not the right way to talk about asexuality. Asexual people can have sexual feelings, and the whole spectrum varies so much. (I'm still not sure where exactly I lie on it.)

I find some guys attractive. That attractiveness varies. Taylor Kinney makes me grin like a loon. But I wouldn't want him touching me.

For women, I am more likely to think "She's so cute / pretty / cool" and admire her, or wish I was that cool. I don't want a woman's touch either.

It's not something I really can talk about most places, so I don't mind this discussion here. But it's all a bit of a gray area, you know.

Am I "asexual enough." (That's not for anybody to decide but me, if or when I'm ready.)

Have I experimented with girls? (No. Nor guys either.)

I don't want to have sex, i.e. somebody touching me sexually. I don't find the idea appealing. Maybe that will change someday, maybe not.

But I sometimes get turned on, and I do enjoy reading gay romance.

Re: asdf;

[(Anonymous)]

Well, that puts you well within the asexuality spectrum anon. And you don't have to get defensive about it. Nobody is telling you you have to fit some normative sexuality.

The only thing about orgasms is that there really is a definite thing that an orgasm is, and for females it involves uterine contractions, as well as contractions of the anal sphincter along with pleasurable sensations. It's one of those things that has a medical definition, so yeah, there is such a thing as a "real" orgasm.

I'm not trying to say that if you don't experience that you're automatically wrong or defective or lesser, I'm just saying that there's a definition at work.

Re: asdf;

[(Anonymous)]

Ah, I thought it was just a convulsive pleasure thing. But actually that sounds like it...yeah.

Thanks for your thoughts.

Re: asdf;

[(Anonymous)]

It sounds like you're not really sexually frustrated, which is good. I have quite a few of these things you speak of but *sigh* feel totally sexually frustrated, so I have to find a way to get with someone that actually satisfies that. Wanking doesn't do the job for me.

Re: asdf;

[(Anonymous)]

(same as above)

Thanks for your thoughts, and sorry you're frustrated. :(

I used to be kind of sexually frustrated but I had some mental blocks going on, about what I was 'allowed' to find arousing.

Wish I knew what to suggest to help you. Hope you find a happy place (sexually or otherwise)