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⌈ Secret Post #2575 ⌋

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[Sleepy Hollow]

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[Aneurin Barnard]

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[Trailer Park Boys]

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[Orphan Black]

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[Sherlock (BBC)]

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[Agents of SHIELD, Torchwood]

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[Saiyuki]

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[Blake's 7]

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[The L Word]

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Probably not to volunteer and just attend the, or a, party next time? You do have to mingle, and even though it can be awkward when it feels like everyone already knows eachother, it's not impossible to join a conversation.

If you have friends who can introduce you to other friends, even better!

volunteering at least gave me something to do and look around (and give to community)

True true. Do you volunteer often? Because now that I think about it, if you haven't already, keeping up with the job is a great way to meet new people and see those same people again. I'm assuming you know some names, and a bit about some of the people there, so it softens the re-introduction and you have a common base (eg: went to the same party; volunteer; remember you both like ___).

And, in my experience here, it's not that uncommon to have trouble breaking into established circles in the queer community at events unless you already know someone. A lot of people show up to a club, waiting to be talked to, and are disappointed when it doesn't happen, and shy away from coming back. Like with any social excursion, you have to keep at it. Become a regular face. You're already working on being in the community, so I think this is going to be an inevitability regardless of how fast/slow it takes.

Seconding cloud_riven's post! And also pointing out that this is a single experience. I've done a decent chunk of one-time only volunteering gigs where I've known absolutely no one going into them, and sometimes they're amazing and the conversation and experience with the people I meet is great and memorable, and other times, they're awkward, tedious or rushed, or the people I'm grouped with and I just don't click. Or, over the course of a long night, they're all of those things...

Plus, I'd wager even the party lions have a night or two where they just can't. Like this:

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Re: queer mingling

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