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⌈ Secret Post #2577 ⌋

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[Theresa Lopez-Fitzgerald-Crane, from the soap opera Passions]

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[BBC Sherlock]

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[Nobunaga the Fool]

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[Carrie Fisher as Princess Leia from Star Wars]

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[The Quick and the Dead]

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[Nathan Fillion]

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[Warehouse 13]

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Just have fun with it. The chances are good that every single other time you have sex after that is going to be better and more fun (because you'll start to learn what you like and don't like, what hurts and what feels incredible) so consider this a prototype, a draft, or an alpha test that you'll tinker with from now on until it turns into something really amazing.

For me I was raised ultraconservative complete with SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE WILL SEND YOU TO HELL, HEEEELLLLLLL!!!! morals, and a huge emphasis on the sanctity of sex, how it was "God's gift", how it was this indescribable moment of pure awe and it would change your life forever because "science" says your "attachment" hormones will make you fall in love (and other bullshit from your good ol' abstinence class) so sex had a lot of baggage for me, even though I'd long since abandoned those mores by the time I first got laid.

Then when I actually had it I spent the whole night afterwards laughing to myself - not that the dude wasn't decent in bed, but in the end it was just... a rote biological function. With the same kind of orgasm I'd given myself with my hands countless thousands of times before. It was fun, pleasurable, and I definitely wanted to do it again, but it was like eating an absolutely delicious meal or getting an amazing night's sleep: just something your body does. There's nothing mystical or transcendental about it all. I didn't feel any differently about my partner than when I started, either. It was like we went dancing or played a video game together, but with less trash talk and more mess.

Sex: it's good. And it'll be even better the next time.

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