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⌈ Secret Post #2577 ⌋

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[Theresa Lopez-Fitzgerald-Crane, from the soap opera Passions]


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[BBC Sherlock]


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[Nobunaga the Fool]


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[Carrie Fisher as Princess Leia from Star Wars]


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[The Quick and the Dead]


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[Nathan Fillion]


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[Warehouse 13]


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Sex for the first time

[(Anonymous)]

Um, so this is awkward, but my bf and I are thinking of having sex for the first time. Does anyone have advice/horror stories/things to be wary of? I'm female, in my early twenties and a virgin.

Alternatively, share your first-time stories!

Re: Sex for the first time

[(Anonymous)]

Advice: use protection. if it hurts stop. lube is rarely a bad thing. have fun!

Re: Sex for the first time

[(Anonymous)]

LOTS of foreplay. LOTS. Go slow, use condoms and a latex-friendly lube. Oh, and keep communication lines open, don't be afraid to tell one another what is and is not working for you.

Re: Sex for the first time

[(Anonymous)]

Not necessarily. For some women, extensive foreplay just turns dull and makes them dry out again.

Re: Sex for the first time

[(Anonymous)]

Don't do it unless you are totally 100% convinced he is not an asshole. Most guys do a really good job of pretending they're not evil and vile right up until they're inside you, then usually they almost instantly drop the mask, and are like "HA! FUCKING TRICKED YOU YOU DUMB FUCK!"

It's not worth it.

Re: Sex for the first time

[(Anonymous)]

wtf is this comment?

Re: Sex for the first time

[(Anonymous)]

If you're worried about that happening, turn the tables on them. "Tricked me? Yeah, I thought you'd be a better fuck than that. Don't let the door hit your ass on the way out."

Re: Sex for the first time

[(Anonymous)]

PLOT TWIST

What if the girl is an asshole?

OOOOOH!

Re: Sex for the first time

[(Anonymous)]

Wow... I'll just have to tell that to all my exes that they should have just dropped me like a hot potato once they got into my pants.

Heck even one man tried to stop us having sex because he was not looking for a relationship and he was a bit scared that I would think it was more than just sex.

Men in general are not evil, individuals can be bastards, but last time I checked that applies to women too...

Re: Sex for the first time

[(Anonymous)]

Yes, in reality, putting a vagina around one's penis has much the same effect as putting on the One Ring, except the corruption into Gollum happens instantaneously and it doesn't (usually) turn the penis-haver invisible.

Re: Sex for the first time

[nyxelestia]

Alternatively, make sure you're doing this for the sex and not for the boyfriend. Then it doesn't matter whether they 'tricked' you or not. You got what you wanted so you still win.

Also, try masturbating a bit on your own for a bit beforehand. You may - honestly, you probably will - need to help yourself climax at the end if that's a big deal to you, so good to know your body beforehand.

And, yes, lube. Lube, lube, so much lube, ALL THE LUBE. :P

Re: Sex for the first time

[(Anonymous)]

"Most guys"

Maybe this has been YOUR anecdotal experience, but it has not been mine. How many = most in this random study of yours?

Re: Sex for the first time

[(Anonymous)]

I definitely recommend going slow.

Personally, even now, I find sex a lot more pleasant at first if I've already orgasmed once, since things are more relaxed and better lubricated down there. So I recommend that you guys either do some mutual masturbation and/or oral before the penetration part.

Oh, and it will likely be awkward and there will probably be some logistical issues. Both of you will have a better time if you're prepared to laugh at the situation and move on, rather than being "OMG, we must do it RIGHT!". And if it's not working, for whatever reason, remember that it's not your one and only chance, and you can try again tomorrow/next week/whenever the stars alight with your libidos.

Good luck, and have fun!

Re: Sex for the first time

[(Anonymous)]

Don't ignore what your body is telling you. If it hurts, tell him to back off and try more foreplay before trying again. He may not come, you may not come, it's okay and it doesn't reflect poorly on either of you.

Also, human bodies made weird, gross, and hilarious noises. Try to ignore them or laugh it off - don't make a big deal out of it.

Re: Sex for the first time

[(Anonymous)]

Don't hype it. Nothing will live up to the hype you've built in your head. NOTHING. Just relax, use protection, lube and have fun.

Re: Sex for the first time

[(Anonymous)]

Don't take yourselves to seriously. Laugh. Don't think you have to act/look like you're in a porno or a movie sex scene.

If you haven't already, do some sexual exploration of each other's bodies first without planning on going for vaginal penetration that session/day (so as to relieve some of the pressure).

Both of these things made my first time relatively non-awkward.

Re: Sex for the first time

[making_excuses]

From my experience sex doesn't hurt at all, not even the first time I did it with a man, but you might want to take it slow and make sure nothing is dry down there because that could at the least be quite uncomfortable and at the worst painful.

Good news is that if it does hurt, it is not the end of the world, you just need more foreplay! And that is fun! Just
remember to relax, don't be scared because it is not dangerous and your body is built to handle it.

I don't really subscribe to the "full of warnings and worst case scenarios" take on losing ones virginity, I am not saying it is necessarily wrong to think like that, but most of the people I know (including myself), didn't have any issues when we lost our virginities, not the act itself nor the aftereffects.

Losing your virginity is just as meaningful as you want it to be! And when I lost mine I thought I would suddenly change or become a woman, and honestly nothing changed I was the same in the morning.

did that help at all? I dunno if I made any sense or anything, I am not having the best day so I might be a bit loopy.

I have a horror story!

[(Anonymous)]

On a cold and windy winter's night, in a dark, old mansion at the end of a lonely road, a young couple were preparing to have sex for the first time. Everything was in place. They had the lube, and the protection, and had asked their favorite fandom-related dreamwidth community for advice.

"Okay," said the boyfriend, "I'm going to initiate foreplay."

"Yes, good. I am already a little bit aroused." said the girl.

Suddenly there was a loud screech!

"What was that?"

"Nothing," the girlfriend said, "probably just a tree, walking around in the attic. It's an old house, you know."

She patted his head and gently guided him back to her vagina, which was staring back at him.

Re: Sex for the first time

[(Anonymous)]

Don't have a big meal first. These huge restaurant meals are supposed to be so romantic, but in reality make you feel really un-sexy.

Re: Sex for the first time

[iceyred]

I don't have any advice. I just want to brag about my first time. He turned on the rock music, and there was scratching, biting, sucking, licking, spanking, and just about every position you can imagine. It was great.

I am a terrible Christian, but I have great sex.

Re: Sex for the first time

[(Anonymous)]

No matter what you do it's going to be awful.

Re: Sex for the first time

[ariakas]

Just have fun with it. The chances are good that every single other time you have sex after that is going to be better and more fun (because you'll start to learn what you like and don't like, what hurts and what feels incredible) so consider this a prototype, a draft, or an alpha test that you'll tinker with from now on until it turns into something really amazing.

For me I was raised ultraconservative complete with SEX OUTSIDE OF MARRIAGE WILL SEND YOU TO HELL, HEEEELLLLLLL!!!! morals, and a huge emphasis on the sanctity of sex, how it was "God's gift", how it was this indescribable moment of pure awe and it would change your life forever because "science" says your "attachment" hormones will make you fall in love (and other bullshit from your good ol' abstinence class) so sex had a lot of baggage for me, even though I'd long since abandoned those mores by the time I first got laid.

Then when I actually had it I spent the whole night afterwards laughing to myself - not that the dude wasn't decent in bed, but in the end it was just... a rote biological function. With the same kind of orgasm I'd given myself with my hands countless thousands of times before. It was fun, pleasurable, and I definitely wanted to do it again, but it was like eating an absolutely delicious meal or getting an amazing night's sleep: just something your body does. There's nothing mystical or transcendental about it all. I didn't feel any differently about my partner than when I started, either. It was like we went dancing or played a video game together, but with less trash talk and more mess.

Sex: it's good. And it'll be even better the next time.

Re: Sex for the first time

[(Anonymous)]

One thing I'd like to add: if it doesn't work out the first time, don't give up!

I was fortunate enough to have an experienced, genuinely caring partner for my first time. Thankfully, since we quickly found out I was "blessed" with a very thick hymen. After three separate evenings of trying, and starting to wonder if I'd need surgery, Partner got the idea for us to go to a sex shop and see if getting a dildo to do the first "break" as it were would work.

Dildo + woman-on-top position so gravity can help = success!

Actual penis followed after I stopped shaking from shock.

I wish you both a ton of fun! :)

Re: Sex for the first time

[(Anonymous)]

Lots of good advice in the comments above. Added to that, don't focus too much on the penetration bit. In reality for a lot of women that is not the be all and end all of sex. For most men, yes, penetration is nice but it's the other stuff that sets it apart from you, your hand and a tube of lube.

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

OP - thanks for your advice, guys. :)