[ SECRET POST #2584 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2584 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

01.
[Danball Senki Wars]


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02.
[Harry Potter]


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03.
[Burn Notice]


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04.
[The Island of Doctor Moreau]


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05.
[Papers, Please]


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06.
[Star Trek: The Next Generation]


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07.
[Pretty Little Liars]


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08.
[KILL LA KILL]


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09.
[Labyrinth, The Hobbit]

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10.
[The Hobbit]


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11.
[The Hobbit]


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12.
[The Kiss of the Spider Woman]














Notes:

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Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

OP

[(Anonymous)]

I have been getting therapy for years. If I wasn't, the problem would be worse. But thanks for reminding me of another reason I don't talk about my panic attacks. Because thoughtless idiots like you always say "You should get therapy!" like it never occurred to them that I already would be.

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

Some people aren't in therapy and don't know it's an option.

But that's great that you're an asshole who flies off the handle at the slightest provocation.

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

You're really not doing yourself any favors or offering anything meaningful to OP here. You've already made them feel attacked; do you have to dig the hole deeper?

[(Anonymous)]

Ugh yeah, that anon who replied to the OP isn't me. I'm the one who suggested therapy and I still stand by my statement. If the OP feels like they're not getting enough support, than they should schedule more appointments. Also agree with the anon that OP is being dickish and is coming across as selfish over this situation.

[(Anonymous)]

Oh shut the fuck up. You told them to 'get a grip' and then now are made because they didn't what? Shower you in praise for the most common bullshit answer?

[(Anonymous)]

And you and OP are mad because what? People didn't indulge them and say "awwww poor wittle baby, this is totally normal and okay?"

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

mte at OP's reply.

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

The only asshole here is you. Fuck off.

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

No. Having an anxiety disorder isn't an excuse to act like a child. But then again, maybe that's the real reason OP's issues haven't been fixed: they like the attention and the excuse.

Re: OP

[nyxelestia]

NAYRT

For those of us with sentiments similar to AYRT's, it's not that it didn't occur to us that you could be in therapy, but that it's occurred to us that you might not be, because either you assume these kinds of panic attacks are too small a problem to see a therapist about or don't even realize that you can and should see a therapist about.

Because unfortunately, there are actually people like that, those who have been raised with such fucked up ideas of mental health that the genuinely think panic and anxiety attacks are "normal" or a 'stupid' thing to seek medical help for. :|

AYRT was a bit dickish about it, but they did still have a point. If someone gets panic attacks just by listening to someone else's problems, then yes, they need serious, serious medical help. It's great that you are getting help, though!

More germane to your original comment: is there any way you can help your friend expand their own support network, i.e. find friends or family for her to talk to? Or, what country/state/region do you live in? Most likely, there is some kind of stress hotline your friend can call so that she isn't entirely dependent on talking to you to help her cope.

Obviously talking to a stranger about your problems is daunting and not nearly as helpful as talking to a friend, but for your sake and hers, having someone else to talk to is better than no one else.

Re: OP

[comma_chameleon]

Obviously talking to a stranger about your problems is daunting and not nearly as helpful as talking to a friend, but for your sake and hers, having someone else to talk to is better than no one else.

Agreed. OP, you might not want to sound hard hearted or cruel to a friend (and I understand that), but sometimes you (and I mean a general you) are just not capable or able to deal with the magnitude of a friend's problems and it's okay to say something like, "I'm your friend and I care for you, but I really don't think that these problems are something I can help you with, have you thought about talking to a professional?" or something of that ilk.

Especially if someone else's problems are causing you mental or physical stress, you have to draw a line. At the risk of sounding cruel, sometimes you do have to think about yourself first, even if you want to help your friend.

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

"Obviously talking to a stranger about your problems is daunting and not nearly as helpful as talking to a friend, but for your sake and hers, having someone else to talk to is better than no one else."

I don't know, I always have less trouble talking/confiding in people I don't know than people I'm friends with. So that actually might be a good option.

Re: OP

[nyxelestia]

I guess it just depends on the person. I prefer talking to strangers, myself, but a lot of people apparently find that kind of option terrifying. *shrugs*