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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2014-02-05 06:43 pm

[ SECRET POST #2591 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2591 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 046 secrets from Secret Submission Post #370.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

(Anonymous) 2014-02-06 12:07 am (UTC)(link)
Seconding the "SO sounds like a dick" opinion. If you've let SO know that it bothers you and needs to stop, SO should stop, period. If you can't let SO know how much it bothers you because he'd only ramp up his efforts... well, maybe you should reconsider being with someone who obviously enjoys upsetting you. Relationships don't have to be like that.

Call him on it. Ask him why he needs to belittle something that you do for fun when it doesn't hurt anyone and doesn't concern him at all. If he counters with something like "It's dumb blah blah blah", listen calmly and tell him that it's fine he thinks that because he doesn't have to do it. You like it, you're going to keep doing it, and he needs to keep his "teasing"* to himself from now on.


* Quotation marks because it's not teasing and don't let him gaslight you into "it's only a joke" or "lighten up" remarks. At best, he's being insensitive and petty. At worst, he's a bullying asshole.

(Anonymous) 2014-02-06 04:50 am (UTC)(link)
The secret is making me wonder if SO belittles and ridicules the OP in other ways--little jabs that he can pass off as "just a joke."