fandomsecrets | [ SECRET POST #2596 ]

⌈ Secret Post #2596 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

01.

__________________________________________________

02.

[Star Trek: The Next Generation]

__________________________________________________

03.

[The Croods]

__________________________________________________

04.

[Elementary]

__________________________________________________

05.

[Final Fantasy XIII]

__________________________________________________

06.

[SCP Foundation]

__________________________________________________

07.

[Philip Seymour Hoffman]

__________________________________________________

08.

[Twin Peaks]

__________________________________________________

09.

[Richard Armitage]

__________________________________________________

10.

[Reign]

__________________________________________________

11.

[The Hobbit]

__________________________________________________

12.

[Hunger Games]

__________________________________________________

13.

[Don't Hug Me I'm Scared]

__________________________________________________

14.

[Teen Wolf]

__________________________________________________

15.

[Panic! at The Disco/Dallon Weekes]

Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 03 pages, 063 secrets from Secret Submission Post #371.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Flat | Top-Level Comments Only

*hugs* if you want them

First, let me say I can relate to having been convinced to being in a relationship, sometimes feeling a bit o a hostage and like my partner is jealous o fun with other people. Having said that, that experience combined with the things he said to you, it seems like he doesn't feel like you value and want the relationship as much as he does. so if you decide you want to stay with him, you might want to work on showing him that's not true? Also, let him know you're in a shitty period and that's sometimes spilling into how you treat the relationship.

Anyway, though my advice probably doesn't help, best o luck.

Okay, so I was giving the short version, but since you mentioned it I'm going to elaborate a bit.

We got together soon - perhaps too soon - after my ex broke up with me. I didn't want to, basically, because to put it crudely I was enjoying being single and wanted to fuck around and live it up a little. Hell, I wasn't ever sure I wanted a relationship in the first place. So I was like: I think you're cute, but I'm not gonna marry you, or have your babies, or play house with you, or make any promises in that regard.

And he was like: okay, let's give it a go. He was charming and sweet and I had the hots for him so I did. And suddenly we're six years down the line.

The thing is, though I love him, I still have very mixed feelings towards traditional relationships, and it even feel very alien to see myself a being part of one. So here's the core of the problem; I love him, but not necessarily the relationship.

I honestly thought he felt the same, but he said some things that might imply he's more jealous that I expected (which i itself scares me).

Anyway, I've mentioned the shitty period. Several times. But, he wasn't in my life the last time I was depressed and though he acknowledges what I say, I do not think he truly grasps what it means. *Sigh*

(same anon) OH. Now I relate even more. Reason I didn't want to be in a relationship is that I'm not into traditional, monogamous relationships. But I decided to give it a go. Years later, I realized I couldn't keep up with it, so we took a break and ended up opening the relationship. It's still our major struggling point though.

so I know how hard it is to see your future with someone whose relationship idea is foreign to you. Have you talked to him about it lately? Because doing it for him ends up making you resent it and that might be at the roots o your issues which the fight brought out and also his insecurity if he knows.

And about the second point, yeah, it's just really hard explaining it to people who haven't been depressed. Or even to some who have, but in a different way. I hope you can get out o this dark place, anon.

It's weird, as we actually talked about an open relationship at some point in the beginning, but decided against it because it would complicate so many things. I sort of tried with the ex, in the sex that we'd still have cybersex with other people, but it's not the same as a full blown open relationship.

I'm still not out on that.

You know, with the sex thing, it would be exciting to try someone new, but really that's all in all a minor issue. I can just fap and fantasize if I want to.

But...emotionally, I do need both intellectual and emotional stimulation from more than one person. Which, I always did and he never seemed to protest to - until now, apparently. Maybe he's feeling neglected, I don't know. But the fact he did mention it makes me really uncomfortable.

He knows my feelings on relationships, and until now, seemed to agree (or at least pretended to). I think part of the problem is also that I'm more outgoing and adventurous while his perfect Sunday is probably spent on his couch, so by definition, I just interact with a lot more people than he does.

Anyway, thanks for being understanding. It means a lot.

[ SECRET POST #2596 ]

Re: FS, my bf and I got into a stupid argument, and I think I might have broken something I can't fi

Re: FS, my bf and I got into a stupid argument, and I think I might have broken something I can't fi

Re: FS, my bf and I got into a stupid argument, and I think I might have broken something I can't fi

Re: FS, my bf and I got into a stupid argument, and I think I might have broken something I can't fi