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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2014-03-07 06:55 pm

[ SECRET POST #2621 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2621 ⌋

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Re: CRAIGSLIST

(Anonymous) 2014-03-08 08:24 am (UTC)(link)
But I don't WANT a casual hookup from someone who just wants to have sex. Logically, I am aware that I'm conventionally attractive and a fetishized minority where I live, so no, it wouldn't be hard. But ideally I would like to have sex with someone who actually gives a shit about ME as a person, not just my vagina. And apparently that's too much to ask for, since I either get guys who aren't interested in me in any way, shape, or form, or guys who just want to hit it and quit it. And I just want an in-between. That's why it's hard. In the wrong ways, anyway.

I mean, it's not a huge deal for me. Obviously if it was, I'd figure out some safe way of hooking up and just "get it over with". But as someone who is insecure, at least for the very first time I get naked in front of someone, I'd like them to actually care about me. After that, we'll see, but for now, I'd rather do it with someone I trust and care about, who trusts and cares about me.

Re: CRAIGSLIST

(Anonymous) 2014-03-08 05:24 pm (UTC)(link)
Ah. Yes, that can make it more difficult. And really, that bit is hard for just about everyone, regardless how they look (save for a small group of incredibly lucky people).

I won't lie to you and tell you that there's someone out there for everyone. What I will say is that, as hard as it is at first (I'm a very shy and anxious person, so I was very scared in the beginning), the best way to find someone like that is to put yourself out there. Find some clubs in your area. Meet people, and make an effort to get to know them, and make sure that they get the chance to know you. That's how I eventually found someone. I spent many years lamenting the fact that no one seemed to want me, but then I joined an organization, and after about a year I had not one but three different guys from said org who were genuinely interested in me.

You've got to be a position to give people the chance to get to know who you really are. That'll give you more options and more opportunities.