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Basically, what it says.

This is a guy I know from high school. We were never romantically involved, though we had complicated history.

We don't really see each other much anymore. The odd party, we're on each other's Facebook.

Anyway; on his last birthday he basically gives me a drunk booty call, saying in no uncertain terms he wants to have sex with me. He was also whining about how monogamy is not working for him and how he's not feeling it with his girlfriend blah blah blah. I shut him down, as we're both in relationship and that was the end of that.

Now I find out that same girlfriend just had his kid. He must have impregnated her not long after said booty call. I really don't know how to feel about this.

Feel like he's a creep and it's not your fault. Order delivery and dance in your underwear. If you're into that.

I dunno, I feel like maybe I should have told her? But I felt like it was none of my business at the time, and didn't want the drama.

Up to you, but it might backfire horribly on you if you do.

I really don't know how to feel about this.

Gross? I'd block this scumsucker from everything that connects you, and avoid at all costs. Sounds like waaaaaaay too much drama tbph.

True. Sort of feel sorry for her, though, even though I don't really know her.

Feel like you dodged a bullet of crazy.

Never really considered it. I knew he had issues (unrelated to this). I just feel sorry for his gf now :(

Relieved? And happy for making the right call?

I'd totally distance from this creepy dude and take him off FB and other connections you have. If you're at all friends with the gf/baby mama I'd consider telling her but that could blow up in your face. But I'd definitely want to know if a dude I had a kid with and considered my partner was going around hitting up other people and talking about how monogamy doesn't work for him. :\

That's my problem, I don't know her. And now I sort of feel i should have told her before they had the kid....

It's a tough situation, made more so by the kid. Some people wouldn't appreciate the heads up, but I think a lot of others would. And hey, what do I know, maybe she knows about it and they've talked about commitment when they made the step to have a kid?

If he ever does it again I'd definitely give her a heads up, but as is I think it's just your call and could go either way.

My guess is that he couldn't get anyone to bang him, fucked his girlfriend and then bam.

It could get backlash but I think my question there would be, do you have mutual friends? If you do not, then what is the backlash really going to do (besides be upsetting, and if you don't think you can handle that, that is totally fine; I have anxiety so I often err on the side of not pushing it)?

If you do have mutual friends, then I think the question is whether you want to risk potential drama-splosion in your group, because some people get bizarrely defensive of guys regarding anything sexual and refuse to believe that *gasp* their friend could do that, of course you must be crazy. And some would say that knowing what kind of friend would do that and ridding them from your life would be a good thing, but it's also an incredibly stressful and sad thing to go through (having been there, when I broke up with an abusive ex, and some of our mutual friends -- thankfully, very few -- refused to believe had done it).

Good luck, whatever you choose, anon.

What a huge piece of shit he is. I'd block him and wash your hands of it.

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