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⌈ Secret Post #2622 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Is there a polite way

[nyxelestia]

There isn't really a polite way, but I wouldn't say that means you shouldn't ask - especially if the reason is because your online friend has been doing some behaviors/things that are a little uncomfortable.

Just start by bringing up and explaining those problems, why they make you uncomfortable, etc. If the friend is an Aspie, there's a very good chance that he'll bring it up on his own in this situation. Even if not, just ask (preface it with an "I don't want to be rude, BUT I would still like to know" and append it with "and if you don't want to say either way, feel free to tell me so").

I will say that the Aspies I actually know usually appreciate a little heads up about when they do something off-kilter enough to make people uncomfortable. Granted, most people are still uncomfortable pointing things out (which means people tell me and I have to tell them because apparently I'm just not), and it's like there are never instances that don't result in them taking things personally - it's just far less likely to happen, and as long as you keep it kind of isolated to a very specific point (i.e. not "don't be so loud" but rather "make sure your voice doesn't go above the surrounding decibel level, and lean in instead of raising your voice when you need to be heard" and then when they forget and start raising their voices again, a simple 'voice down, dude' works wonders), it's not really much of a problem.