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[Outlander]

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[The Walking Dead]

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[How I Met Your Mother]

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[Twitch Plays Pokemon]

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[Batman, Kill La Kill, Borderlands]

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[Overlord]

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[Red Dwarf]

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[Paranatural]

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[Pitch Perfect]

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[Insidious: Chapter 2]

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For the first part of your question, it's hard to say without knowing specifics. But if it helps, a lot of times stuff like that happens not because you're his 4th choice on some set-in-stone list, but because casual sex between friends is often a matter of random chance. I've slept with a couple of random guys I'm friends with after parties without any premediation, and it's not like I slept with top choice, then second choice, or anything like that. It was more "hey, I'm horny. We seem to find each other reasonably attractive. Makeout time?"

For the second part, as long as your friend isn't an asshole, should opportunity for makeouts come up and you're a bit skittish, you should feel comfortable going "hey, I'm not terribly experienced, mind if we go slow here?" or "sorry, I'm just not quite ready to do X yet". And just because he's done X, Y, or Z with other people, doesn't mean you automatically have to do X, Y, or Z with him. Or that he'd be unhappy that you didn't. If he's worth some sort of sexytimes with, he'll respect your boundaries. (He may also have some hangups about sexytimes with a new person! Guys do too!)

And remember that people don't just suddenly become sex experts. At soem point, they were inexperienced too!

Good luck, whatever happens!

This is really excellent advice and the OP should forget the rest of us and just listen to you.

Seriously, this is possibly the best advice possible. The only thing I would add is 'use protection.'

I agree, but I tend to tell my friends when they go out "remember to use protection and try not to fall down a ditch*." and that advice probably fits here too.

*It happened to a friend of mine once, she also rolled into a bush with thorns, hit her head on a beam and got a concussion all in the same night, that is Russ for you...

+1. This is excellent, well thought out advice and I agree. If you want to have sex with him the only thing to do is bring it up and see if he's interested. If he is, great! It doesn't matter that he's had experience and you haven't; I seriously, seriously doubt that would change his mind. (And if it does you should find someone else.)

Uh, as for getting over insecurity? IDK, but I guess just remember that we're often our own biggest critics and that you shouldn't take any of that to heart or let it put you off of the experience.

Hope things work out for you! (BE SAFE.)

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