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⌈ Secret Post #2630 ⌋

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femininity in Japan

[(Anonymous)]

let me tell you something I was once told by a Japanese coworker of mine: in Japan, it's MUCH better for a guy to seem "girly" than for a girl to seem "manly". After she said this, the rest of my coworkers, male and female, all nodded in agreement.

The question had come up when I was talking about one of my students, who had recently come back from studying abroad for a semester in America. In Japan (at the time) it was very popular for high school/college boys to wear headbands in their hair. Some of those headbands could be pretty OTT in decoration, including glitter and whatnot. In the US, that's not something you would likely see a boy wearing. This boy came back to class and told me that he went to school wearing his headband one day and had been laughed out of the classroom and called a "fag" for the rest of the time he was there.

My point is that femininity is not always the same thing to everyone, and a lot of things that are considered "girly" in America, at least, are considered unisex in Japan.

Re: femininity in Japan

[(Anonymous)]

This is fascinating, thankyou. And explains so much, having visited Japan myself. Compare and contrast to white/Euro Australian macho culture.

Re: femininity in Japan

[ariakas]

Yeah, a lot of this just seems to be "surprise! different societies have different constructions of gender!".

Not that what the West would consider stereotypically manly men don't exist in Japan - they absolutely do - but they are neither the ideal nor are men expected to conform to their behaviour (they have any entirely different masculine ideal to which they're expected to conform >>).