[ SECRET POST #2632 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2632 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Game of Thrones]


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03.
[Patrick Stump / Fall Out Boy]


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04.
[Men in Black, Agent Coulson]


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05.
[Twin Peaks]


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06.
[Defenders of Berk/How To Train Your Dragon 2]


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[Lily Allen]


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08.
[Attack on Titan]


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09.
[The Brittas Empire]


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10.
[Panic! at the Disco]


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[Frozen]













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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I disagree. Because sure half the population is female. But I have only met the ones I grew up with, met in college, and the ones I work with. Maybeeeeeee 100 of those I actually meet well enough to know anything about. So that does not mean I don't get along with women. It means I don't share interests with the women I have met. Because guess what. The women I have met all live and were raised in the same area. Thus, they generally have the same interests and beliefs.

And I know everyone on the internet hates to admit this but MOST people do fall into traditional female/male interests based on their assigned gender. Whether this is because of society being sexist or not, does not matter.

So, out of those 100 women I know, only 7-8 share the "typically male interests" that I enjoy (video games, action movies, crude humor, etc).

I am friends on facebook with a lot of people I went to high school with. Of the females, I can think of two that enjoy video games. I work with 4 women. None of them play video games and don't have any interest in them.

[(Anonymous)]

1. If you haven't ever bothered to look for people who share your interests that aren't in your immediate vicinity, that's your own fault.

2. Most people may fall in line with SOME traditionally gender-based interests, but almost certainly not all. "They don't share MY interests" is not the same as "They have ONLY girl/boy interests".

3. If you only have a single interest that you use to gauge your friendship compatibility with someone, again, that's your fault. Also, I don't know where you live, but no matter how few people live near you, you obviously have access to the internet. Lots of women on the internet play video games. It's not hard to find some.

There's a point where you actually have to do SOME work to make friends. If you're only interacting with the people life has situated around you, then sure, you may have problems. But that's stupid in the internet age, and it's also can't be applied to Lily Allen, because she's a celebrity and she meets tons of people all the time. You guys don't live in bubbles.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, I don't really count "internet friends". Because no matter how much you think you know that person you met on tumblr who is totally an awesome girl, they may not be. It really isn't that hard to fake shit on the internet.

And meeting a lot of people does not mean you actually get to know them. Do you have intimate conversations with every person you are introduced to?

And of course I have more than a single interest. Do you want me to name every fucking one in a comment? Because it may take me a while to write them all up. I was just using video games as an example.

[(Anonymous)]

Some of the best LOCAL friends I have? I made on the internet.

I hang out with them outside the internet all the time, but it doesn't mean I didn't meet them on the internet 9 years ago.

da

[(Anonymous)]

That only works if your internet friends happen to be local, though. I have loads of internet friends, but of them, only about three of them live close enough to me to make hanging out IRL at all feasible.

ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

Growing up, I did not have the internet. I did not get the internet until I went to college. My childhood home (very rural) still has no internet available.

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

But...you're...on the internet now?

[(Anonymous)]

What? We're supposed to go OUTSIDE of our life to meet people?

And Lily Allen meets other celebrities all the time. Don't think she doesn't have her own social bubble.

I don't know why you're so offended by anon's friendship choices.

[(Anonymous)]

You have to literally go outside of your life. You must use telepathy to send your consciousness to another plane of existence. This is where you will find your female friends.

Apparently the person above you does not understand how similar people can be in small towns and such.

[(Anonymous)]

What if AYRT has friends, but those friends just don't happen to be female? Should AYRT start searching high and low for female friends just to fill some quota and prove some point?

[(Anonymous)]

mte. Why is it anon's "fault" for not having female friends? If the people she found in her life that shared her interests happened to be men, why is she now required to go out of her way to find female friends? What's the acceptable ratio of male vs female friends?

[(Anonymous)]

Agreed. I went to a snobby upper-class all-girls' private school in high school and I didn't really have many friends at all there because the school was populated mainly by spoiled rich kids and I was a kid from a middle-class family whose parents had scrimped and saved to be able to send me there. Add in the fact that I had "typical male interests" as opposed to more "feminine" ones and the end result was that I just didn't have any interests in common with 99% of my classmates.

When I went to college and was exposed to people outside that particular social and economic bracket and geographic area, I had no trouble making female friends because there were plenty of women there who shared the same interests that I did.

[(Anonymous)]

No sorry. According to people on here you are most probably internalizing misogyny. Or something like that.

[(Anonymous)]

DA

No, that's pretty much the opposite of internalized misogyny there. "I was in one place where all the girls were mean and I didn't like it. Then I went somewhere else with lots of different people, and I made friends with some of those girls, because not all girls are mean/shallow/catty."

[(Anonymous)]

Hey, that's like me! Also, lesbian, so double ostracism. No guys would be friends with me either. And at uni, the geeky women I had lots in common with and tried to be friends with (as I was doing a computer course) were far more interested in proving to their male friends how different and awesome they were from "other" women. Well, I found some good female friends eventually... and then got told I was "too much like a man". Well fuck.

[(Anonymous)]

Even if you don't count people on the internet as friends (and ftr, I disagree with that, as I have some really good friends I met through the internet, and yes, I've met some of them in person), that still doesn't mean you are limited to the people who live next to you or work with you. Are there no locations that you can meet someone around you? Museums? Groups? Anything? If you are into games, are there no groups of gamers in your area? I really find this difficult to believe.

Because I'm a girl with mostly stereotypical interests (games, sci-fi, comic books, etc). When I was in high school, my options were limited (partially because there was no internet), but when I was in college (granted, it was a university where like half of us were studying science of one branch or another, so interests might have been skewed a bit?), I ended up with about 2/3 guy friends 1/3 girl friends. And even now, I have found girls who have shared my interests. I find it really difficult to believe you cannot find a single girl that you have things in common with.

[(Anonymous)]

In my life? No. The nearest area what would have any places like that is an hour away. And I don't really want to drive an hour to hang out in a comic/game store like a creeper and try to make friends with strangers (who probably just want to buy their shit and not be approached by a creeper).

In college I did gain more female friends (it was a Women's College so I didn't really have a choice). But not in my working career, I am back to square one. I moved away from my home to an even shittier, smaller town (and state).

[(Anonymous)]

Even if you don't count people on the internet as friends (and ftr, I disagree with that, as I have some really good friends I met through the internet, and yes, I've met some of them in person)

Same here. In fact I met my best friend through the internet. We've been friends for almost ten years now.

[(Anonymous)]

"Are there no locations that you can meet someone around you? Museums? Groups? Anything? If you are into games, are there no groups of gamers in your area?"

Sometimes the issue is not lack of locations, but lack of time to meet new people outside of a very small social circle (collage, work place, etc.) in the first place.

[(Anonymous)]

this. at the end of the day, after work and other responsibilities i simply don't have the time or energy to go out and meet new people. when i do go out, it's mostly with my coworkers or existing friends.

[(Anonymous)]

There really isn't. This coming from someone who's having trouble with either sex, before you assume.

[(Anonymous)]

You sound annoying as shit, no wonder no one wants to be friends with you.

[(Anonymous)]

I lived in a town that had 552 people in the 2000 census. I still managed to make friends of both genders. And I was fairly shy.

So nope.

[(Anonymous)]

I think your problem is that you're relying on a single interest (video games) to create and probably maintain friendships.