[ SECRET POST #2632 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2632 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Game of Thrones]


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03.
[Patrick Stump / Fall Out Boy]


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04.
[Men in Black, Agent Coulson]


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05.
[Twin Peaks]


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06.
[Defenders of Berk/How To Train Your Dragon 2]


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07.
[Lily Allen]


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08.
[Attack on Titan]


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09.
[The Brittas Empire]


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10.
[Panic! at the Disco]


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11.
[Frozen]













Notes:

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Comments

Re: Overly-dependent friend?

[intrigueing]

Okay, I'm just gonna make a few assumptions, and you ignore me and tell me how I'm wrong if I'm way off the mark:

You care about her enough to put up with all this exhaustion, so that means you must care enough about her to also not want to see her so anxious and insecure, quite apart from the fact that she's exhausting you, correct? The fact that she's exhausting you is just an additional negative aspect of her problems, right? I mean, if a close friend is that irritating, while also in a mental place where you're worried that straight-up telling her to stop being irritating will devastate her, that's not exactly a healthy situation for her.

So, if you care about her that much, don't focus solely on your irritation, but take your irritation as a symptom of her larger problem -- her overdependence. Try to tell her that it'll be healthier for her to try and deal with some shit on her own. Give her tough love, not the brush-off. Try to fix the problem, not the side effects If she's got a thick enough skin, maybe point out that she's irritating you, but frame it as "you don't want to be an irritating person, do you? Don't you want to be able to handle these things on your own?" rather than just "stop irritating me."

Believe it or not, people often really appreciate it, at least in the long run, when their friends can tell them to get their act together. It shows that you care about her well-being enough to risk the unpleasantness of having to confront her. Someone who decides they'd rather let a friend keep digging an unhealthy hole than upset her is self-serving and in the long run a more harmful and enabling presence than a friend who can give her a kick in the ass.