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[sarillia]

You sound like you could use some time to yourself to calm down and collect yourself. Withdrawing can be a problem when it's how you respond to every problem and you never take action, but there are times when it's perfectly healthy.

I can relate to feeling like everything I say and do is going to be judged and twisted and used against me. I was in a really bad place for a while because of that but I'm doing better now. I'm no kind of expert but you should know that it is possible to break free of these thoughts.

Part of what helped me was thinking about why it would be so bad for people to judge me. What is the worst that would happen? I judge people sometimes because that's just what people do. They move on with their lives and I can too. Think about when you judge people. Do you ruin that person's life? Or do you decide that it's really none of your concern and start thinking about something else? Other people do that too.

I don't think I can help anyone else get to where I am now, but I've made peace with the fact that people will think what they like about me and for the most part it doesn't really affect me. Even if they say something about whatever negative things they're thinking about me, it's just one conversation. It will get drowned out by all the other things that happen that hour, day, week, month. They'll forget, even if my neurotic mind doesn't.

Of course the stakes are a bit higher with family and friends but the principle that most of these incidents are bigger in your mind than anyone else's still holds. Part of it is trusting that these people care about you. They probably don't want to think the worst of you and they will probably be understanding of anything that your mind thinks they will use against you.

As for therapists, it is fine to let them know when they're doing something that bothers you. I have had several talks with therapists about things they were doing that made me uncomfortable and they were just happy I was honest with them. Having a therapist that interrupts you sounds really annoying and I think you're perfectly justified to say "could you please let me finish what I'm saying before you jump in?" And if you think you just won't click with your current therapist then you can try to find someone else.

I hope you feel more calm and relaxed later. Like I said, this all sounds very familiar to me and it's not a good place to be. Hugs. <3